Ok this may be long but I don't want to drip feed.
My friend met her OH after she left her hubby. He was addicted to amphetamines and an alcoholic.
I warned her away but she was mid, mid-life crisis and was in love with him.
As soon as they got together I knew it was bad.... stuff went missing from my house when they'd been and I let it go.... I knew it was him but didn't want to upset my friend.
She moved him into her house and I noticed a change in her behaviour.... mid day drinking/chilling at the pub but then sending him pissed to collect her DD from school.
On one occasion he was brought home in a police car as a passers-by by had witnessed him screaming at her DD and had called the police out of concern. DD was about 6 at this time. She covered for him to police... he called DD a spoilt brat. She did nothing.
Not long after that she was issued with an eviction notice because of him. I spent hours writing to council and on the phone. Eventually she was moved to a different area. She was also pregnant by this time.
5 years on and she has been kicking him out for the last 5 years. He lies, he steals, he's abusive. He calls her names.
She always has an excuse to keep him though. Even when ss were involved there were excuses for him.
It's usually a holiday coming up or a birthday, or Christmas.... anything. Any reason to keep him there. He brings zero money in. He does nothing in the house. He just takes money all the time.
I just don't know what I can do to help. It weighs so heavily on me because I can see what it's doing to the kids....