Calling my Mums Pater Grandad?

[Orchids17]

Hi:)

Im pregnant with my first child and very excited:) My mum is also excited, which is great but im really struggling as she wants her partner to be called Granddad. We didn't have a Dad growing up so I find it really hard to accept that my child is going to call the man my mum is with 'Granddad'. Don't get me wrong, they have been together 7 years and I think he is a great guy and great for my mum but he wasn't my dad so how can I let my son call him grand...dad? It too hard for me. For one, my mum was the amazing person that brought us up on her own, she deserves the title of nanny/nanna/grandma, what ever she wants to be called. Two, surely my husbands dad deserves the title of granddad as he has been there all his life? Anyway, I was thinking of the names Gramps / Paps / Pops. Before I broach this with my mum does anyone have any suggestions of names or anyway I can do this without offending my mum or partner?

You are over thinking this OP, although I can understand why.

Won't the children developer their own version of his "title" - perhaps they way they first say his name, or because he does/says/behaves/is known for something that becomes his name or - yes indeed - how they pronounce whatever title you use for him.

Like parents who give children names with the daft plan to force a specific nickname in future - these things just happen naturally.

My sibling's mildly embarrassing nickname for me is nothing whatsoever to do with my given name (which has tons of shorter/nickname variants). Its based on a childhood experience and I have to explain it every time she yells it out across a shop or whatever!

I agree with PP you seem to be saying that "Granddad" is a title bestowed upon one person. It needn't be that way, I had a Granddad Greg and a Granddad Ray.

Also, whatever you call him needn't have the word "dad" in it as others have suggested, which also seems to be a sticking point for you.

My dd's children have so many grandparents, some blood related, others step-gp. I am Nanny and the rest are Granddad Name/ Nanna Name/ Grandma Name. So much easier when you have lots.
They have... me, my dp/dh (it's complicated) who is also Baldy Granddad, my ex and his partner, my mum and dad, my grandma, my dp/dh's mum and dad. On their paternal side they have Nanna S, their dad's dad and partner. So, many more than the usual 4. It works for us.

We decided on names for the grandparents before the kids are born. The kids are now 6, 4 and 3. Only one of the four gets called what had originally been agreed - the children made their own versions - some less flattering than others!

My stepdad has been around since I was 10 and my dad died a couple of years before DD was born, so it's easy and fine for us that Dstepdad is Grandpa. My step siblings were older when my mum became their stepmum so aren't as close as I am to Dstepdad. Their kids have eg Grandma Kath (stepsibs' mum) and Grandma Sue (my mum) and Nanny Jean and Nanny Mary on the dad's side. In the side of the family where one of the grandmas has now died, the first name has gradually been dropped by the kids as it's not needed to differentiate any more, and Grandma is just Grandma.