I've name changed for this as I've posted previously about something that may link this problem to my normal username.
Here goes,
I have been with DP for 1 year now, all going relatively well, both divorced with DC. We have not discussed introducing DC yet as this is the first serious relationship for both of us since our divorces. Due to work and family commitments we can't see each other as often as we'd like so I guess you could say our relationship may not be at the same stage as another couple who have been together for a year.
There is an age gap between us, I am 29 and he is 44. When we first met he kept going on about how he couldn't believe how lucky he was and he didn't understand why I chose to chase him. His age was never a factor for me and I think he put a lot more thought into than I did.
I'm rambling now, just before DP and I met, I lost a friend in very tragic circumstances. Myself and the friends and family of my friend are on the very long road to justice. I don't want to go into the circumstances of my friends death as the rights and wrongs are already being discussed at length by many around the country.
When I use the term we I mean myself, the friends and family, lawyers and politicians involved in this campaign. For many of us we are facing something we have no experience in and are having to ask for help from various people we may never have came into contact with.
Anyway on to the problem, due to the current circumstances I am finding myself with less free time as I am taking advice from others. In order to do this I have been having meetings, phone calls and emails from people who I see as being kind enough to help us. DP sees this very differently. He seems almost convinced that the men involved must have ulterior motives.
DP and I communicate through text a lot in the evenings, I've had meetings lately and feel it's very rude to be texting him when these people have been nice enough to help me. I do always tell him beforehand that I will be busy and he says it's ok and to let him know how I've got on etc but when I do reply to him he's in a mood!
He will then ask questions about the person I've been meeting and if they are married, what do they look like, how old are they and what was their name etc. I think he may be looking them up.
On Friday DP and I had plans to spend the weekend away together, I told him weeks beforehand I wouldn't be free until later on in the evening as I had another meeting to attend. He was fine with this and went for a drink before we met for dinner, we met up and had a good evening. There was some question about the meeting but nothing like the texts I get when we are not together.
Later on in the evening I received a text, my phone was on the side table in our hotel room and DP saw the message. I can't remember exactly what it said but it was from the man I had met and it was along the lines of it has been lovely to meet me and there was an x at the end.
DP lost it and started asking questions about if I had said anything about him to this man and the man had been disrepectful by texting when he knew we were going to be together and he was obviously interested in me and that I had put myself in a dangerous situation meeting with strange men.
I am not proud of myself but I retaliated back that of course I hadn't mentioned my relationship status as it was irrelevant and to stop being so stupid and treating me like his ex wife, she cheated and that's why he divorced her. I am not proud of myself for these comments. Anyway, I hadn't been drinking so I left and went home before anymore could come of the argument.
Since that night things have been very frosty between us, he has apologised for his behaviour but says I need to realise I am not helping him with his fears with my actions.
Apologies for the very long OP but I wanted to get all the facts out there before asking, is DP right? Am I taking the piss?