Slightly strange as this is not about my relationship, but one of my oldest and most lovely friends. She is in bits and I feel completely unequipped to support her. I thought that I would ask for advice from the wisdom here.
Basically, she has found out that her husband has been having phone/Skype/graphic text/picture sex with various other women. All of this was happening at a very difficult time in her life (IVF) and outwardly he was incredibly supportive. She found out - completely by accident/his stupidity- on the day she was going in to be induced. She says she felt completely trapped, couldn't kick him out as she needed practical support and couldn't tell anyone as it was supposed to be the happiest time of their lives.
Anyway, cutting a long story short she has recently found other pictures of different women (he claims they are years old, but who keeps stuff like that?) and she's also just discovered that he slept with someone else a long time ago, before they got engaged. He had sworn blind that there was nothing else when she took him back after DC was born.
So now, she is completely betrayed and feels as if she has no idea who he is anymore. I can understand her confusion. My Dh and I are completely shocked that he would behave like this. He has genuinely always seemed such a brilliant guy. However, she also feels like she loses out whatever happens:
Relationship with no trust or
Shared custody of her baby
I have tried to remain neutral (in case she takes him back) and offer a supportive, listening ear. Inside I am raging, but I honestly don't know what to advise.
Is there any hope?