What would you do if you were me?

[ToStayOrToGo]

Dp and I have been together 4 years, own a house together but no DC. Things have been rough since October/November time and I can't for the life of me decide whether to continue with the relationship. Before that things were OK, but I did feel a little taken for granted, I tried to say something but maybe I didn't try hard enough.

So, positives

• on the whole we want similar things from life
• similar interests
• we compliment each other well (what one is good at the other isn't)
• we used to have fun together

negatives

• I feel he is marginally sexist
• can be prone to talking down to me (he does this to everyone though)
• very rarely makes me laugh any more
• the bad few months have really got me down, I'm not sure I can let him back in

I don't know whether we could be happy together again or whether its better to end it. He is making a massive effort at the moment.

I feel like there may be people better suited to each other out there but I am not sure whether this is just a bad patch or not

He's willing to see how things go over the next month or so but keeps asking every few days how I feel

Still feeling confused......I've felt for months like he wasn't interested and now he thinks it might be over he's trying so so hard but it almost feels too late and like I've checked out already

Stop thinking. Seriously. You need to try to deliberately stop trying to make a decision for a while and see how you feel then. Decide how long you want. Maybe a couple of weeks or a month? And in that time do not even try to make a decision and tell him to stop asking you for an update every few days.

If you try to live a 'normal' life for a few weeks you may find the decision makes itself.

Someone very wise once said, "If you don't know what to do, do nothing until you do know."

I really like that idea, thank you