Freshening up a sex life.....any pearls of wisdom?

[DetentionGrrrl]

Right ladies, i want your tales, toys, advice and filth please......

My sex life is in desperate need of a huge kick up the arse. DP is often tired and has a low sex drive. I'm always tired (but still up for it anyway!) and having stopped b/feeding am starting to feel back to 'normal' again.

I refuse to carry on like this!

2 words for you

ANN SUMMERS

I just opened this ready to impart my pearls of wisdom as I actually went to an Ann Summers party last night.....and I see I am not alone in this thought.

It is better fun than I expected and I actually ordeed some stuff which suprised me. Why dont you hold a party so you get to have a good night and some ideas?

I tried the pleasure gel. They put it in a cotton bud you you pop to the loo and give it a go.......like head and shoulders menthol for your lady bits but suprisingly nice. If dh had been there he would definately have got it

Oh come on ladies! A little help here!

Was going to go into Ann Summers earlier, but had DS in pushchair and it felt so innapropriate for some reason

Ours was boring for a while up until our dd was about 2 and both dc's finally went to bed at a decent time AND slept through as well. If you're both tired a good sex life will probably not happen.
It always helps to think back to the days before your lo's came along and pick up any ideas from there.
Sending eachother naughty text messages or emails during the day can help to build up the mood and suspense.
Booking a babysitter and going out for the night helps too so you can pay undivided attention to eachother and do a bit of good old fashioned flirting. Men like nice clothing and nice lingerie so make sure to wear something that shows off your best side and let him know there's a surprise he'll like underneath those clothes as well!
I found that once the first step to a more interesting time in bed was taken, the rest just followed by doing and talking about what we fantasised about. Actually it was talking to eachother that helped the most. I used to be too shy to talk about what I wanted in bed with my dh, but now I've got over that shyness things are far far better

Oh and I go into Ann Summers with my dd in a push chair. No one stares at me. You can also still order on-line if you're really worried.

buy a vibro ring.

its a cock ring that also vibrates and has a large bullet that stimulates YOU

place it on him then get on top. you bounce about to your own delight as everytime he thrusts into you the bullet hits your clit and weyheyhey!

he gets the pleasure of laying back doing nothing but watch you bounce away.
you both get the sex but only you do the work.

It is proven fact that the more sex youhave the more energised you feel.

The Vibro ring is £18 online £21.50 in the shops or £16 via my email - FATTIEMUMMA @ MSN .COM

I am also more than happy to discuss othewr items

I started subscribing to this when were TTC and were getting bored!

Like the magazine, Tommy. Might have to subscribe to it myself!