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How do I flirt? I'm rubbish at these things!

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BeckyWithTheGoodHair · 07/05/2016 16:25

I came out of a five year relationship earlier this year and have been slowly moving on with my life since then. I started a new job a few weeks ago and there is someone there I really like. We have slowly been chatting and We spent our entire 45 minute lunch break yesterday chatting and he said something along the lines of preferring the office now that I am there.

He seems very quiet but is so funny, I was in stitches yesterday. One of the other people who work in the building mentioned to me yesterday (after lunch) that she has never heard him speak more then a few words so was amazed at how chatty he was with me. He seems like such a lovely, funny man and has beautiful eyes

Anyway, I have no idea how to make it obvious I like him. I don't really know anything about him (except that he is single), for all I know he may not even be into girls!!

I had a really rough time with my ex and our break up. I am absolutely crap at this whole flirting thing. I think he was flirting with me yesterday but I might just be imagining things. How do I flirt?!? And find out whether he likes me. And then what? Do I just wait to see if he asks me out? Or do I ask him? Aghhhh so hard

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goddessofsmallthings · 10/05/2016 23:00

Any thanks should more properly go to IB, Becky Grin

You should also consider how you may appear to your other colleagues if you make your attraction to this guy obvious. As you haven't been working for the company long enough for them to get to know you, you could come across as something of a maneater who makes a beeline for any thing in trousers male that attracts your attention and remember that just because this, or any other, guy is single it doesn't necessarily mean he hasn't got a significant other that he spends his downtime with.

Keep it light and keep it professional at work, and look to build an active social life by making friends of both sexes and all ages through meetup or other interest groups rather than using work as a substitute dating service.

I take the view that if a relationship is destined to happen it'll do so without me batting my eyelashes giving fate a shove. Smile

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