I need advice realting to my FIL. Writing this sounds petty now but it annoys me when it happens. Whenever he sees my DD he is quite intense with her always geeing her up (which is ok when she is playing but if it is near bed time it causes me trouble in getting her settled) but the other day I needed to go out and I asked my FIL to look after my DD for an hour or so. When I came back my DD reached out towards me but my FIL kept her in his arms - it was really sad but then when he was holding her he sort of kissed but more sucked her ear. He is an affectionate charater but I found it inappropriate but I felt myself shrinking but welling in anger. I have suffered from PNT. My relationship with my partner is OK but has had its moments over the year. When ever I have spoken directly to my FIL my partner asks that I go through him! Is ear sucking ok???am I being over sensitive? Think FIL is just a bit insensitive and hasnt really got much of a clue - I know his heart is in the right place and I wouldnt mind so much if he actually listened. I could go on there are LOADS of niggles but this one is the tip!!!Both my partner and FIL are quite competitive in different ways and to be honest I dont warm to my FIL so he maybe doomed from the start....please help.My DD is 6months old and he paid no interest in the pregnancy has helped very little up until DD was born,he doesnt really help anyway, but just pops over for 20mins or so for a cuddle with our DD, asking for his help to look after her was an exception. (When I tried to show him where nappies/water/food/etc was he virtually ignored me - or sort of passed my words off as insignificant)I feel he doesnt even know me and how my partner and I want things done.My Mother and father are travelling and is unable to help at the moment (very sad for us both)My partner's mother is deseased so he is the only grandparent about. Im going to stop as I could go on and on.....