does your relationship change when you have more kids

[22ann]

does your relationship change with most people close to you when you have another child or would you say that it's pretty similar as you've already made adjustments after you had your first child.

what relationships are you refering to?i dont think your relationship with your dh/dp changes that much but with others such as pil's or your own parents it does cos you know what you are doing more and are less likely to put up with interference iyswim.
as for friendships...i distinctly remember having friends and a social life when i had 1/2/3 children but since having no.4 something is very different

thanks for your message, generally i suppose i'm more concerned about pil's interference!

Yes I think all relationships change and the more children you have the more they change. When I still only had three they hadn't changed all THAT much. I was still able to get out easily with them, I was still energetic enough to continue a social life. Once no. 4 arrived I became too tired to go out or have people round as much and that does affect your relationship with your friends.
With day time friends, i.e. those with other young children, I think they become uncomfortable with being around the chaos of so many other children, even if they have ones of their own, it is tiring for evryone concerned and there's no getting away from that.

I also find that my views of my friends with say only 1 or 2 children have changed. I am less tolerant of them and find alot of their concerns quite petty, that might sound awful, but I seem to pack so much into my time that I get cross when they moan about what they do when it so calm compared to my life.

Relations with dp are also strained now.

So I would say, up to three kids it doesn't really make a difference, that can't be lived with, three are still easy to cope with. 4 or more, it becomes very hard to maintain any of the realtionships you had before on anything but a skeleton basis. This is my experience anyway. I'm hoping things will ease up when all the hildren are older and I'm less tired and my life is less full on.
Sorry to ramble.