Am I being unreasonable?

[islandgirl]

---to expect DH who works away all week to make an effort to come home by 7.30pm on a Friday, and remind himself what his family looks like, or is that just to much to expect. Not only that but when he does swan in he will expect a yummy supper! Sorry, really cross today with most things....(although since I came on MN children are playing really nicely together!)

no

Not unreasonable at all, I'd also expect him to bring in the takeaway and bottle of wine.

I hope that you still hav a lovley long weekend

I don't think so, if he's been away all week it's like a mini break (no breakfasts to get, all meals provided, evenings without children and able to do what you want in the evening)...I hope you get some time to yourself this w/e

No, you're not being unreasonable. In fact, I'd expect him to walk in, put the children to bed, pour me a glass of wine, cook me supper and give me a lie in on Saturday. That's what happens in our house anyway. And I'd expect time to myself at the weekend (if I was you, I mean).

Hey all guys are selfish and think they are hard done by and that we should be there to mop their fevered brow after such a long hard day at work.

It's a bank holiday weekend. My DH has been working away ALL of May apart from 2 brief days home where he went into work for a couple of hours and spent the second afternoon and evening enjoying one of his hobbies. However I'm not aloud to moan about seeing no-one, looking after DD1 (9 months) 24/7 or being bored coz he's having a worse time than me. To top it all if I do get out hell I'd better not go very far as that'll cost petrol money. Straw broke camel's back today and have been in tears since. The straw problem has sorted itself out but all the other underlying issues are still there. Didn't help matters by stopping on the hard shoulder to have a no holds barred humdinger of an argument with him on the mobile phone where I resorted to dirty tactics of telling him that he was a control freak just like his dad. Sigh

wickedwaterwitch - you have it sorted well done! soozi - so sorry that your DH is not being particularly supportive....but I don't know if there is an easy answer. My DH is away each week and then weekends is so tired that he recovers most of the time, which means that I rarely get time to myself, but hey ho.

Sorry Soozi- my dh isnt selfish. He works all night , does the school run during the day and looks after dd whislt I'm at work. Also finds time to do lots of housework as well.

Sorry Hercules - I did make rather a sweeping generalisation. I was off on one because I've been on my own for a month and felt like I was being policed from afar about what to do and what choices I have to make like I am incapable of making any myself. I have always been very independent and capable but I have given up my work to be housewife and Mum. We are in a lucky position that we can afford to and my DH is fully supportive. However I don't think DH appreciates this is a full time job with not much adult contact other than 2 hrs at toddlers group a week. The only money I spend is on groceries and petrol but DH has a real tight fisted element about him in that everything (and I mean everything) has a financial comment attached to it. It has started to pretty much rule our life and has gotten to the stage that anything we do is spoiled because he goes over the sums in his head again and again. I could understand if we were really skint and I was out buying masses of clothes and makeup but that is just not the case. Some of the spontaneity in our lives has been lost because of it.

We had a good chat last night and sorted it out (I hope). DH is a pretty good all rounder really.