anyone want to join me in an ex-husband silent scream.....?

[wallybantersjunkbox]

I can't do this in real life, I feel like I want to go into a field and scream. Scream and scream until I can only croak...or vomit

Ex after 2 years still refusing to pay maintenance and owes €13000 euros for last two years...

I've just paid €6000 in lawyers and court fees this week because he's ignoring all letters.

He works 30 hours a week. His choice.

He gets a pension from his old job

He sees DS 4 days a month.

Last month he cancelled a week over Easter that I had to cover with childcare. He said he'd pay the €320 costs. I'm still waiting for the money...

This weekend because he eff'dd up his weekends he booked flights because apparently our DS11 said we were going away this weekend..

...DS said he really didn't say that...I agree with him because it simply isn't anything we've even discussed...(we don't have money to go away for starters....!)

Ex just whatsapped & said he's not going to make the weekend, he thought on cancelling the flights but he's not... because "he really needs a break"

I work a 50 hour week....

We are hanging by a thread in terms of money, organisation, stress..

He really needs a break though...


AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHHH!

DS is gutted. He won't see him until the end of the month.

I can't even look at his muppety inane grinning fat gob on his Whatsapp profile without wanting to smash my own fist through my phone...

So I had to come here and make a silent scream...anyone want to join me? Please do...

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Thanks vodka I'm glad life is great for you. And others with happy stories.

Love the idea of the Mamma Mia wedding, Abba should be one in the playlist in the evening while you chuckle to yourself.


I feel less need to scream today, I think I'll take it out on the ironing instead.

[Boolovessulley]

My ex h pays zero maintenance.

He gave dd zero for her birthday.

He doesn't have the dcs- ever. It's too much of an inconvenience. Last time he saw them was at Christmas when his new wife had to collect them ( de dums) after he told them I was selfish for not driving to his both ways. He couldn't drive because it was Christmas Day!!

When the dcs did visit him they were told they would not be fed. They had to sit in another room whilst ex and wife and all her dcs and her mum and dad ate a huge Sunday lunch.

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Oh Boo what a heartless bunch of pigs. How could the whole family sit there eating like that? On Christmas Day. It's totally beyond comprehension....

I hope that's the last Christmas they had to suffer like that.

[VodkaLimeSodaIce]

boo that's bloody awful!!!! How can people be like that to children!! It really annoys me that supposed adults can take out their perceived grievances on defenceless children that are nothing to do with the issues between the parents! I think they do it as they know to hurt our kids will hit us harder than anything.
for you boo, you and your kids deserve so much better X

[Boolovessulley]

Yep I know but she was the ow so what do you expect.

Nothing makes it better because I know my dcs should be getting maintenance and I'm hardly well off myself.

Until the government makes it illegal not to support your dcs then this behaviour will continue I'm afraid.

[Lemonblast]

Joining in with the silent scream.
Karma is wonderful though because my kids are now voting with their feet and contact is dwindling off. He's really aged and OW is knee deep in shitty nappies and tantrumming toddlers, while my wonderful DP has taken all my broken bits and put them back together again and the kids adore him

[Bitchqueen90]

Hopping on for this one. My exH is a lazy parent. He never texts or phones me asking to have ds (I have said he's welcome to have him whenever he wants) it's always me texting asking "when would you like to have ds?" And half the time he doesn't bother replying claiming he was too busy to reply. I bet he's not when one of his friends or girlfriend messages him. He'll have him for roughly one night a fortnight.

He pays maintenance like clockwork so I have no gripes there but it's so draining trying to keep the relationship going between him and ds.

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Scream away Bitch such a shame...your DS will see through him one day, and I'm sure know all the effort you put in.

When my ex first walked out he thought he could visit DS here in my house for two hours on a Saturday/Sunday. This meant me being tied to the place (he was taking loads of stuff so I wasn't leaving him here)

When I informed him that the lawyer had said every other weekend at his place MINIMUM was the law here he got shirty with me, saying I just wanted my "entitlement" to time off. Basically because I was lazy.

Now he's father of the year of course for having DS on those weekends.

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Lemon it's funny you mention ageing. I arranged for DH to buy a cheap single bed from a friend here, so DS had something to sleep on.

He picked it up from her and when I saw her next she said "oh you never told me your DH was so much older than you"

I'm 45 and he's 46.

Lovely karma......my worry lines did disappear a bit when he left!!!!

[Lemonblast]

Mines got old man jowls as well

[Dungandbother]

Oh mine too! He looks so much older has gotten ton of grey (none before) and put on weight. His clothes also look crap.... Obviously colours aren't being separated for washing so everything has that sludge pallor. He wears white shirts for work so it's really noticeable.

But OW is a fashion fiend cheap one mind and he turned up in some god awful loafers. Mid tan, no socks. I actually snorted when I opened the door. (I don't ever look at him, only his feet!)

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Dung loving the loafers.

For some reason my ex started growing his almost bald hair. He had a piece at the front long and greased back into a kind of quiff last year.

I went to pick up DS and I couldn't stop staring at the top of his head. When I left I said "Thank you verrrrrrre much" in an Elvis voice. I couldn't Help myself.

[donners312]

thats so funny really made me laugh!

[Dungandbother]

Marvellous. We turned the scream into a laugh

[wallybantersjunkbox]

[thefamilywarrior]

Very sad when I read about men like this.

My brother once returned from work to find his wife of 7 years gone with the kids. She had cooked up her case with stories of abuse, etc. He pays over 60% of his income as child maintenance because they used figures of when he was better off. And he yet pays £100 just to see his kids for 2 hours.

Why do irresponsible men get away with it while responsible men are dying to at least spend time with their kids?

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Well the joy of a few giggles ended this morning, back off his romantic mini break only to ignore another request to pay a bill to cover childcare costs during his holidays.

And lawyer says his continued delays will cost in the region of 9000€.

Huge cockwombling, spunk trumpet.

[wallybantersjunkbox]

Sorry about your brother family warrior.