When is cheating an 'affair'

[petalzzzzz]

If two people, one of which is married have an ongoing fuck buddy type relationship (friends, sex, but no feelings/love) is that an affair?

Maybe ask your friend if she thinks the situation is perfectly acceptable why does she need some clarification on one word (a word which perfectly describes what is going on) to help her feel better about it?

Well yes it's an affair but good luck getting through to her. Not sure I could be bothered with the drama and all the crap that goes with a friend like that!

Lightening - if men don't want to 'lose' their children they could always be more involved in their lives before the relationship breaks down... Though I doubt that's the real reason for his affair, it's just the post affair justification lie he told himself and TBH it doesn't bode well for your relationship that he is still keeping it up. And re the hard work, I'm not sure 'working hard' to keep him will prove to be worth it...

I would reconsider the company you choose to keep.