Love my Dh but not our sex life

[Samantha19]

Me and dh have so many laughs, are a great team, great with the kids etc but we lack in the bedroom.... I've put a bit weight on id say 2 stone? I'm not overweight but I'm not slim and sexy like I used to be. I've saw dh looking at sexy women online and sexy women in porn and I'm just put off... I just can't enjoy it now, I constantly worry if we go out that there are more attractive women where we are and I feel shit :( he's not slim himself but I think he's gorgeous no matter what. Whenever we get close I really don't enjoy it, I'm unsure if it's the quality or if I'm too worried. It never really lasts long and I can't climax ever. We haven't slept together for about 2 weeks now but neither of us have tried. Can we have a normal life without sex?

Lol... never mind, a little sensitive confusion x
Stretch marks are mothers stripes... you should see mine. .. I look like I've been mauled by a bear! They go right the way round to the middle of each bum cheek and all the way up to my breast bone!
Make your own sex life... you'll know what works to engage him.
I think your self confidence is the biggest bit in this. Build that and you'll be right fine.

Pork habit.....hahaha

No wonder he's put on a few pounds

In answer to your question OP, I don't think you can have a normal life without sex. The fact you've mentioned the timescale (2 weeks) says to me, it's majorly important to you & sadly must seem like an age ago. I do feel for you. Why don't you suggest mutually watching porn together? You can bet he's equally intimidated by the blokes as well but, it'd be shared & you never know some good may come out of it? If he's a secret (ish) porn user, there may be deeper issues. Good luck & hope it all works out for you both

So he can't be arsed to put effort into your love life but happily watches porn. Nothing will change then will it.

Sad you are putting yourself down when he's no prince charming himself. Ask him instead of watching porn to come to bed and make an effort?

Just chuck the bloody porn, have a nice meal together, do nice things for each other and the lust will soon return, it won't whilst he's knocking them out to a sex vid.

It's not the weight, it's that you don't feel loved/cherished/desirable. Put this into context, plenty of overweight people have fabulous sex lives.

I fluctuate by 6.5 stone and whether I'm a size 8 or a size 20, I've never felt any less desired by DH, whatever I may feel about myself...and he's always taken care of my needs first because he wants me to feel good.

Have you talked to your DH about your feelings about your body and sex? You need to be able to talk. Also, sorry to be crude, it'd be helpful if you can please yourself to be able to help your DH please you.