During an argument this morning H called me a "chimp from Germany" - not actually Germany but the country I grew up in. This was a term of abuse to say that I am immature and ridiculous. Neither of my parents are from the country I grew up in and H knows I do not identify with that nationality at all yet to wind me up he has often said I am from there and linked it to something negative (not about the place which is a perfectly nice place, but about me).
He also made a mockery of how I feel about something.
We are now not talking and I am wondering whether I should tell him that I don't want to be in a relationship where there is very little affection and virtually no sex - and where I am mocked and called names. I don't even know if to be called a chimp from that place is acceptable or not?
Then I look in the mirror and see my 47 year old face and feel even more depressed as I feel as if I look old and that it is only going to get worse . I know I am lucky to be alive and healthy but the thought of never being desired by anybody again is hard to take. Leaving aside the issue of whether or not I should leave my marriage (which with dc in the mix would be very hard) - should I accept that at my age being fancied / loved by someone is just not on the cards?
How do I accept that?
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Feel unattractive / down / "old" and do not like being called names or never having sex but don't know if I am overreacting.
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noperspective · 01/05/2016 13:36
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