We've been married for 14 years and although we function brilliantly as a team around the house, we have struggled to communicate on an emotional level for a very long time. For the last 6 months she - by her own admission - has stopped trying and more recently started a friendship with a work colleague. When I confronted her about the friendship, she swore there was nothing to it. Since then I have seen photos (not the sort you would send to a friend) on her phone. She said she needed some space and time to think, which I have tried to give her. I've now been living elsewhere for 2 weeks and trying to keep talking and emphasizing that I want to try and make things work - but that this would need commitment from both of us and a willingness to listen and change. I've also been going to counselling to work out my part in the communications problems. She has spoken to many of her friends, but has not told any of them the full truth. Yesterday I spent the evening at the house, and although things were strained, we still managed to talk. This morning she admitted that, even though she said she would not stay in contact with her colleague, she emailed him last week to arrange to meet/talk. I'm so confused. I've tried to give her space but it doesn't seem to be working. Before the recent contact with her colleague came to light she had suggested a trial separation, which I wasn't comfortable with but was prepared to try. Now I'm even less sure. To make things more difficult we have 2 brilliant kids (10 and 8), who we both adore and I miss badly whilst away. In need of some good advice...