I'm feeling pretty depressed. I'm a sahm with two dc. My partner doesn't help me much with the dc, they are aged 3 and 1. Every few weeks he takes a day off work but he spends it in his shed, making stuff that he says he will eBay but there's little evidence of much money from this.
He says our relationship is too rocky to get married but we have no shared bank account and I live in his house, I have no claim to it as he didn't want to buy something in joint names when I was working. Every couple of weeks I get really fed up and have a meltdown and then he takes the children out for a couple of hours but doesn't acknowledge me on his return. He doesn't ask how I'm feeling ever, even the day after I've been crying etc. He helps out with housework but basically guilt trips me if I want time 'off' by saying things like 'but surely you don't mind me raking the lawn for an hour?'
I've said to him that it's really cruel and unkind to ignore someone who needs help and is distressed, not least because I'm mother of his children! But it's always excuses 'you didn't ask for help' 'I haven't been in my shed much this month' (when he has, but it's not like I keep a diary of it!)
I can move out but I feel very guilty as the dc have had a really unsettled start to life and the only place I can move is my old flat, which is quite small with only two bedrooms when there are three of us (two dc and me). I'm glad I have that option but my partner is making it very hard for me to leave and still refuses to give me any money (he gave me no money previously either, luckily I have savings from the past and my old flat did have tenants so he argued that was my income).