New man taking a job long distance?

[jessyk]

I have literally just started a new relationship and he's talking about working long distance and coming home at weekends. He has kids from a previous so I am concerned about when we would ever see each other.

Am I worrying about something to be sorted out later, or is it ill advised to be getting more involved with someone if I feel they are about to make a life choice that would make a loving relationship very difficult?

Very difficult. Is he involving you in the decision?

No, aside from asking my advice on various things, we're not at that stage yet but my only doubt with him has always been that he is a bit of a workaholic and this is only going to make matters worse :(

I would pull out before it becomes a pain!

and it will be! most people can't cope happily with long distance, especially when a relationship is supposed to be exciting and developing/getting closer. You'll be stuck in some half casual stage for ever .

Why worry about the future, if you've only just started any form of relationship. Go with the flow & see what happens

that's the point though, Naze, there wouldn't be much flow or spontaneity if he is LD. And more importantly, no change forthcoming - so why spend time and presumably emotions if it's not going in the direction that's comfortable for OP? I think it may be worth it if this person really appeals to you and a soulmate, but if you ar not especially hot on him, no, I wouldn't. All meetings will be on his terms which will cause slow resentment, he couldn't be there if/when you need help or moral support either.

It would tell me he isn't that serious about the relationship.

^^this, what witsender said.
Step back. The workaholic tag that your gut is telling you is the reality with this bloke as well. You will probably never be a priority for him even if he did stay local.

Is he really leaving though? It might be a manipulation that if you'd accept LDR with him, then you might not have a valid complaint if he stays but is also never available due to long working hours, iyswim.