I've plumbed new depths :(

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I just spent half an hour doing my hair and makeup and put on my foxiest tightest Collectif little black dress (that I've only worn on our dates before), my filthiest perfume and my sexiest shoes so that ex DP would think I was going out on a date when he picked the DC up .

Now I'm going to scrub it all off and change into my dog walking clobber and then spend the evening on the sofa eating cheese.

Can someone please tell me how to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you? I feel mortified that I've done something so desperate.

I do understand why but it probably wont make you feel better

There isn't a quick fix sadly, just time

I'm sure people have done much worse than that! Don'e be too hard on yourself.

QFT, hesterton. Exactly that!

Don't be so hard on yourself, heartbreak is a difficult road to travel.

I think that getting all dolled up is a fab idea, but what you should do next time, is actually go out for the evening, even if it's just meeting a couple of friends at the local pub.

That's so familiar. I've done exactly the same. Hope you're OK OP, stomp it out with the dog.

All good practice for when you do!

I think that's a brilliant idea so don't feel stupid. Quite a lot of effort mind for a night in with the dog.

I might copy that idea to piss off my ex.

OP be kind to yourself

Thanks everyone. I think the wine is a fantastic idea. And I don't have to share I guess

Quitya I would love to do that but sadly (and possibly crucial to our split) I have precisely zero friends. None. Can't figure out why as I'm nice to people and, in my opinion anyway, quite good company but I seem completely unable to make friends. Feeling very lonely right now. My mum has just booked to fly over for a visit this weekend, think she could hear the pathetic in my voice

Oh lovely give it your best shit eating grin at the door
There's nothing to be ashamed about throws you a baby bell

Don't scrub all that effort off - take the dog out while you're dressed up and maybe find a dog friendly pub the pair of you can have a drink in so that s/he has a chance to make some new pals

Great idea goddess

that's okay i dyed my hair a lighter colour (my ex liked it my natural dark colour) and i wear shit loads of lipstick now we have split the side effect is i actually like my light hair colour and im loving wearing the lipstick so i might have done it initially to piss him off but ive ended up loving a new look!

i might go for a fringe next............

This is not plumbing depths at all, it's quite amusing. Of course you should not be doing stuff like this in an ideal world but who lives in an ideal world?!

I heartily concur with having a date with yourself or with the dog in a dog friendly pub.

I am definitely doing that if i find myself in your situation! You should write a book!!

I reckon I was mighty overdone for a dog friendly pub but that's a great idea for this weekend, thank you. Ddog is the friendliest mutt in existence so she should be able to pull for me

I'm on my second large glass of chardonnay and am listening to Lemonade to see what the fuss is all about. Cheers everyone

I've done exactly the same with an ex before!