I think I've upset DH.

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So today I've tried to have an adult discussion with DH about our sex life. I was trying to tell him I hadn't been feeling very desired and it was making me lose confidence. But I really enjoy sex with him and I wanted us to be able to discuss our feelings and hopefully get back on the right track.

Well he has gone mad. Called me a selfish bitch and a cunt in front of my children and has stormed out with some clothes and threatened to stay out for the night.

I suppose he may have taken it as a criticism of him when that's really wasn't what I was trying to say. I'm just not sure how to put it right again now, now it's been said I can in say it if that makes sense?

You think he "loves" you even though he doesn't respect you, speaks to you in vile terms, has no qualms about scaring and upsetting your children, will only communicate through text and storms out in a frenzy if you raise a need that you have?

He doesn't love anyone but himself. And probably never will.

Run for the hills.

You may not be bothered by what he calls you in front of your kids, but they will be. I grew up hearing my father screaming at my mother that she was a shitbrain, a piece of shit, a fucking idiot, etc etc. It's not good.

For that alone you need to do some serious thinking, even aside from sex issues. You don't want your children growing up thinking that's normal and acceptable.

Lealander is right, sweetie. You and DC deserve better. You don't call someone you love a cunt, strop off and then send abusive texts. And you sound like this is somehow normal

Wow - I've no idea why you are putting up with being a called a cunt.
If my OH called me that, even once, I'd kick his feckin' arse to the curb.
Why do you think this is all you are worth.
What else does he do that has you 'managing' your own behaviour?

Shocked at the names he calls you and shocked at your apparent acceptance, so not right.

You've been called worse? Is there any worse?

Your title is a joke, you bring up a subject and get called a cunt and you title it: I think I've upset my OH - Jesus.

Given his childish vitriolic defence of his fragile ego, I get the feeling that sex is just another symptom of his contemptuous attitude towards you. Hopefully this is a wake up call, that pandering to this arse is a terrible relationship dynamic to model for your children.

You are worth so much more than this inadequate man child.