I was with my ex boyfriend for 4.5 years.
Around 2 months ago he dumped me totally out of the blue, he did it over a text message and refused to speak to me from that point. His only excuse was that he was unhappy with the relationship - this was new to me because he'd never told me before.
So a month and a half down the line just as I'm beginning to heal, I find out I'm pregnant with his child. At first I told the doctor it was impossible as I was on contraception, I started taking contraception around January time. The doctor assured me the test wasn't wrong and booked me in for a dating scan. Sure enough, the scan told me I'm around 4 months gone. I got pregnant around Christmas time. Now before anyone lectures me about 'unsafe sex' just don't, I'm not here to be lectured about how stupid me and my ex were.
I wasn't going to tell my ex, infact I was almost unwilling to tell him but then last week I got so low and down that I took an overdose on pain killers. My best friend rushed me to hospital and as I was sleeping she went out of the room and called my ex. Luckily the baby was fine, by the way.
2 hours later he called me on a new number (He clearly changed his old one to stop me being able to contact him) He automatically launched into insulting me, he said I was a horrible person and that's why he had left me. He said he disliked me and that every word that came out of my mouth was 'Bullsh*t' This is news to me because I've never once lied to him or mislead him. After he had calmed down slightly he told me that he would come to the next scan with me for the baby but he 'still doesn't like me' and 'can't think of anything worse than seeing me again' He put the phone down after telling me to email him with a date and time for the next scan. He told me not to contact him before that as he doesn't want to hear my voice or see any messages from me (Brutal) Oh, and he also added that he would never want me ever again and that he would NEVER pursue another relationship with me again - Not that I said I wanted this, I think he's flattering himself a little too much, don't you?
Today I got confirmation about the date and time of my next development scan for the baby. I emailed him the details and added 'Could you let me know if this date is ok for you?' I could see that he had opened my email and read it but he never responded, and I doubt he ever will. He's probably just going to show up to the scan and act like a douche with me there.
I understand he doesn't want to speak to me, but why is he being so immature and rude? He hasn't once bothered to ask how I am, even though I'm carrying his baby and then he topped it all of by deciding to just not respond to my email. There's a difference between speaking to someone as minimally as possible and being plain rude. He's being plain rude.
His hate and dislike for me just seems to shine through with every bit of contact we have, but I don't know what else to do when I'm carrying his child. I did nothing wrong to this guy, I literally ADORED him in the 4.5 years we spent together but now it's like I'm terrified of him. It's like I don't even know him. Everyone in my life is questioning whether I really need this whilst I'm pregnant, all of this stress and pain. I just don't know.
What advice do you guys offer? Thank you.