Dsis has just left and I can't get my head around what she said. 4 years ago bil left dsis for OW. It only lasted 6 months and he came back with his tail between his legs. He was very sorry and did everything he could to regain her trust. Aftef a year she agreed to take him back.
This weekend hd brought his work laptop home and left it unlocked when he went out with his mates. She snooped, she has had access to his phone and ipad since he moved back in. She discovered emails to and from OW.
Obviously I didn't see the emails but she said up until 4 weeks ago there were only 4 exchanges all very business like ie asking about parking at a festival site, passing on sad news about the death of a mutual friend. However 4 weeks ago bil senf OW an email asking if she was ok, he said he had heard she was having some trouble at work. She replied with the whole story, then he told her to ' chin up you're a superstar'. 2 weeks later another exchange of half a dozen messages along the same lines ending with him sending her a link to a Colin Hay song saying hd hoped this would cheer her up. Finally an exchange on Friday, again initiated by bil, asking how she is getting on which included general ' catching up' chit about kids elderly parents etc.
Well I was furious on dsis behalf telling her to at least confront him if not through him out. But she said the content is quite innocent andwill just check work llaptop every Saturday when he goes out.
Am I being unfair thinking a man does not contact his ex if hd is not sniffing around.