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AIBU to be so upset by this?

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SeventyNineBottlesOfWine · 22/04/2016 19:21

I feel hurt by my family's lack of interest in me.

I have a brother and a sister. My brother and his wife, I never see. For years I tried to have some sort of a relationship with them but they always made excuses to avoid me

They've always been like this, not speaking to me and not wanting to meet up with me. My two children both went through major surgeries and they didn't even bother to text to ask how they were.

My sister has some learning difficulties. Whenever my parents are away on holiday (which can be quite frequent now they're both retired), she relies heavily on me to help her out.

I'll get panicked phone calls at all times of the night and day where she will be hysterical about something that's gone wrong. I'll sort it out for her and have rung companies for her, helped her pay bills, and been there when she's lonely.
When my parents come back from their holidays she goes back to relying on them and I never see her until they're away again and she wants something.

I feel so unhappy about all this. I don't have any kind of relationship with either.

My parents worship the ground my brother walks on and always have. They will frequently drop everything to be there for him and his wife. They babysit at the drop of a hat, have sat in his house all day waiting for carpets to be delivered, have helped him and his wife decorate, move house etc.

I've never received this much support from them despite being a single parent.
If I phone my Mum she just seems desperate to get me off the phone.

She never pops in to see me and rarely sees my children in comparison to my brother's children.

My brother has even told them to stop going to see him on a weekend as he wants the time with his wife and her children and has told them he will only see them in the week.

My sister sees my parents every Sunday and they take her out for a meal.

I know it sounds so stupid as I'm a grown woman, but I feel completely unloved and unwanted by them and it hurts.

DawnMumsnet · 22/04/2016 19:37

Hi SeventyNineBottlesOfWine,

We can see you're getting some good support here, but we just wondered if you'd like us to move your thread over to our Relationships topic?

Flowers

DawnMumsnet · 22/04/2016 19:39

And don't worry, you haven't posted in the wrong place! It's just that the advice given in our Relationships topic tends to be a bit more sensitive than in AIBU (present company excepted, of course). Smile

DawnMumsnet · 22/04/2016 19:45

Thanks, we're moving it now. Hope you receive plenty more advice and support. Flowers

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