need to pretend for 6 wks - how the f*** do I do that

[myheadsamess]

So, after a difficult few years and lots of angst & financial struggles we have decided to separate. My dd1 has exams starting in 2 wks and so we have decided to wait to tell the kids until after her exams finish.

We are amicable atm but I am finding it really hard to even be in the same room as him, never mind keep up the pretence of a married couple. I really don't want to disrupt my dd's exams but I am literally counting the days. Not that I want to shatter their world but you know. Also - how do we tell them? They are 16,14,12. Do we tell them then H leaves straight away?

Maybe I'm not feeling so amicable after all

Thank you both - we have no house or mortgage, only debt. Planning a solicitor nxt week to clarify what I need to do.
I'm just really really pissed off - asshole

Well I need to learn to separate us in my head and future plans. Anyone any ideas how I do that? I have to keep reminding myself that decision A is my decision only to make, I don't need to take his feelings into account. It's really difficult, I'm spending hours second guessing myself about what to have for dinner ffs.