Is it ever ok to kick out your pregnant daughter?

[Fayla]

I fell pregnant at the age of 23.

My bf and I had just spilt up and I was living at my mothers house, renting a room (she had a very large house).

I was at college and working.

I was already almost 3 months pregnant when I found out. I'd had an abortion at my mothers request as a teenager and almost died from complications.

I decided I wanted to keep my child and she asked me to leave then changed the locks.

I went through the pregnancy alone in a bedsit with very little support.

I've worked hard, been fairly successful and have a wonderful DD. I just can't imagine ever behaving the way she did. What she did still upsets me to this day

No it's not right for a parent to kick a child out over pregnancy, thankfully times have changed and certainly I was threatened with it throughout my teenage years. Although you may not like it, your child and your mother now have a relationship, to consider the terms of this now will only hurt your child and telling your child about your mother's behaviour, what do you want to achieve? Hurt your mum, fine.... Confuse and hurt your child...

Be proud of what you have achieved look forward instead of back x

No, I would never force my DC to leave if pregnant.

Why can't you stop your DC, stop seeing her? Why would it be illegal?

I'm unsure how many DC you have, however if it is only your DD and she is biologically your exDP's; then he has no legal right to dictate that your mother looks after her for childcare reasons, so therefore it is not illegal for you to stop this and IMO I would stop contact, she sounds toxic and uses your ex/DC as a stick to beat you with.

Your mother is heartless and it must be very unnerving for you when your DD is with her without you being present to see what is being said and done etc.

I totally understand your motive for thinking about telling your DD what happened 10 years ago, but firstly she is far far too young to know, and secondly even when she is much older, it is something far too ugly to be told and could be damaging for her.

I don't like secrets at all, particularly when covering things up creates a big hole in family history, but you really are damned both ways.