What to do when your head says one thing and your heart the opposite

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I have recently split from my dh (last week)... Over the last two days we have spent allot of time talking and figuring out what went wrong, and we think we have figured it out... And we probably both need councilling.

In the meantime what do I do regarding giving it another go with help. My head is saying one thing, my heart the other... Any suggestions as how to resolve this?

Get support. Talk to family/friends, get counselling, do the Freedom Programme.

Stay strong and stay away from this man.

He is lying when he says he didn't realise what he was doing and wasn't doing it on purpose. He is lying when he says he will change.

This is the hardest part but once you've got through it you'll be so glad you did.

PS I don't think you should consider dating him or getting back together at all, but if you do, it should be conditional on 2 things:

1. He does the Freedom Programme for men - and you don't see each other until he's finished the course, preferably with proof he's done it.
2. If you must have sex (which I do NOT recommend), double up on contraception eg coil or pill AND condoms. You do NOT want an unplanned pregnancy complicating matters.