So what's your age limits?

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Upper/Lower.
I am 31. For example I don't think I would want to date anyone who is over 40 because I think we would probably want different things? I'm also a bit creeped out to date anyone below 26/27, sort of would feel weird if I was more than 5 years older than a man! Is it just me?

I think if you are over 30 then anything up to 5 years younger or older is ideal but anything up to ten years younger or older is fine. I can't ever imagine being suited to someone with much more than a ten year age gap though.

Yes, I think at 30 something plus 10 years each way is about it. But if they had shedloads of money.............. maybe a little older.

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I'm 36, DP is 38. When I was online dating a couple of years ago before I met DP my search ages were something like 30- 46 - random and a bit arbitrary but felt about right.

Having said that at 30 I fell very deeply for a 50 year old. My siblings are a lot older than me, approaching or in their 50s now, we get on and have fun together and enjoy the same sorts of things, so I wouldn't find it that odd to date someone older. Whereas my eldest nephew is 30, and though we've groen up more like cousins/siblings due to the similarities in age, the thought of dating anyone younger than him is just too weird!

I'm 49, dh is 44. I'd go with 5 years in either direction but in reality it would just be the personality.

I've dated someone ten years younger than me,my boyfriend now is 50 I'm 48 in May.

I'm 28 and DP is 43. Best relationship I've ever been in!

I'm 30 and DP is 25. It bothers him less than it bothers me, I think because I'm very conscious of a) wanting children sooner than him and b) getting old and wrinkly before he does!

I'm kind of interested in this guy who is 24. He looks a little older. I look a little younger than my 31 years.
It feels a massive gap!

It's not really a massive gap, and I think it will seem less significant the older you get. The only thing that might be an issue is if you want children at some point, and if so when. But you still have time for children so if you do want them I wouldn't let it stop you dating him and seeing how it goes. Just don't wait years before discussing children.

I think it's good to look at how relationships have fared with big age gaps. In my experience, the bigger the age gap, either way, the bigger the trade off somewhere. For example, many men will go for a relationship with someone a lot younger, and not worry too much about how compatible you both are, as long as they can show off a younger woman!

For a woman, an older man is OK as long as he can give some money or security. But as the relationship progresses, or if the man loses that security. Or if you ignore any baggage that an older person may have...

So I'd say, if you like someone, just imagine them in 10/20 years on, and without their looks or money. If you still like the thought of being with them, go for it!

I'm 48 and would feel uncomfortable with a man more than 10 years younger than me, but that's mainly down my own issues with ageing. But if he was younger than 38 I could probably get my head around it if 1) he has got all the fast living and shagging out of his system and just want so to settle down to a quiet life with one woman, and 2) he was clearly very into me. I wouldn't want a man more than 10 years older because I'm so pissed of with the chancers on online dating (and I suspect in RL too) who feel entitled to a younger (and usually physically more attractive) woman I wouldn't want to give them the satisfaction. Bitter, yes I am a bit.

TheFatingDooofus no those rules are way out for me at 44!

I'm more like Cabrinha in my way of thinking of age, 35 or 34 would be my absolute maximum in terms of younger and 50 or maybe 51/52 older. Would prefer 46/47.

I also prefer hair on men (don't mind if they're going a bit bald though but not full in Phil/Grant Mitchell style!).

Don't ask for much do I?!

Oh Traffic I totally agree with your age limits, why not!

As you get older and On dating sites your net gets narrower and on some dating events (went to one organised by a dating website recently) the people there (not me as I rarely go to these events) seemed positively desperate. Put it this way you could tell the women/men who were desperate for sex or to get married! And did not care to whom!

It's a funny thing. When I was in my 20's, anyone over the age of 30 was ' over the hill '.
My D.H is just 3 months older than me ( we are 51 ) which is just as well, because anyone over the age of 60 just wouldn't do it for me. Mainly because it will remind me that I'm marching towards that age myself 😱

It seems to be a very personal thing!

I guess it really depends massively on life stages. For example, at 24 I had done all my fast living and was happy to settle into a more sedate lifestyle. But many of my friends the same age were not and some of them still haven't.
Perhaps basing it on age at the offset is a mistake.

I'm 42. My age limits on Online Dating are 35 to 55, I think. I'd go a bit older or younger if we seemed compatible.

Incidentally, I instantly delete messages from men whose upper age limit is younger than their age. That always seems like a bad sign to me.

I was always five years older as top limit, one year younger as lower. Being late twenties to early thirties when I was dating meant I really didn't want a younger man.

Ten years either way.
I'm 33.

Actually scrap that. No way would I date an old gimmer of 43!

I'm 34 (but feel 18).

If I was single my limits would be 24 - 64.

I often see older guys who I think I'd date but also more and more younger ones too.

I don't think I'd be able to have a long term relationship with a guy who was old enough to be my dad but who knows?

I'm 41. My lower limit is, er, 41. I wouldn't date someone younger than me. Largely because I feel old and unattractive as it is. And most men, again IME, are looking for someone younger than themselves and pretty.

My upper limit is 44 because, again IME, most men after about 45/46 are very 'old'.

Having said that, there is a man I'm very attracted to and he is a very youthful 50. So my age limits are not fixed in stone.

I've dated men up to 18 years older than me (in my 20's and 30's) and always assumed I would end up with someone older than me.

Met dh when I was 36 and he was 24. Still together 7 years on.

ExH was 3 weeks younger than me (so my age). We met at uni.
I assumed that it meet someone else around the same age.
DP is 14 years older.
I wouldn't have dreamed of such an age gap, but it just isn't relevant to our lives together.

"I instantly delete messages from men whose upper age limit is younger than their age"

So did I. So many would rather have a woman 20 years younger than 1 year older it was sad. Good thing though, for me, it weeded out the chaff. I can't quite put my finger on why I hate it so much but it makes me question what their views of women might be deep down.

I always thought my age limits were 26-34 (I am 27), but I hit it off with a guy at the gym the other day just chatting, and when I found out he was 22, it made me reconsider my stance on this! I WILL control myself

I still think around 24/25, but I guess it depends on the guy!