More of an AIBU, but I was worried maybe TMI for the folks there.
So, DW and I have been married for over a decade and have children, all school-age. I work FT, DW PT approaching FT and so that plus chores means were are both very busy. The kids are typically all in bed by 8 - 8:30, by which time one or both of us is generally pretty exhausted.
As you can guess, our sex life has become intermittent, but every now and again DW will say, how about a shag? The problem is that while I like the idea in theory, I'm too tired by the end of the day to have much desire. Sometimes there's a little bit though, which brings me to the issue.
When the kids are in bed, DW will typically settle herself in front of the computer for half an hour to an hour in her dressing gown and and
PHWRRRRRRRRPP!
PAARRRRRRPP!!!
sssSSSFFFFFFPHP!
let off a whole series of farts, typically at five-minute intervals. Really loud ones - there isn't actually anywhere to go in our rather small house to avoid the noise.
And unfortunately they really kill what desire I have stone dead. I just can't ignore them. They just puts all idea of sex out of my mind and I end up having an early night because I'm tired, or settling into a book instead.
I have said to DW a number of times that the farting is a bit of a passion-killer, but she says she can't help it - they just creep up on her. I personally don't think this is actually true, as she isn't given to loud farting in public. I don't bother mentioning it any more as I've spoken my mind on it enough times. Although she asks for sex far more often than I do, she doesn't seem to mind if nothing results. She also only ever asks. I don't know if this is because she doesn't want to pressurise me or because she actually doesn't mind that much.
I would be grateful to know if people think my reaction is fair or not, as it will help me rationalise this one way or another.