Right... Been over 2 years single after dv relationship, 3 kids, one disabled. Tried online dating, not really for me as I only met strange ones or ones who raised red flags.
During the past year, I've been chatting with a group of people who I admin a fb group with, they've been there through the horrific dates, the operations for my daughter and we generally support each other through the crap and the good.
One of the guys had a relationship break down not long after I joined the group due to infidelity, we all supported him through the worst and one night we got chatting as he's the same age as one of my siblings and we have similar interests...
That night he called me and in the fashions of teens we spent all night on the phone 😳 We laughed and joked and we just got on.
I've always found him physically attractive and I admitted this during our conversation and he said he had always liked me but wanted to get over the last relationship etc.
We've started seeing each other and I thought it was going well, we've been together 5 months now and he's met my kids, he lives a distance away so for the first few visits, it was when the kids had gone to bed etc, him leaving before they woke.
He's met my brother and sister in law, plus my dad. He is coming up as often as he can with work and his kids, but I don't feel like he's fully invested in the relationship. I'm yet to meet his family, he still lives with his uncle after the split so he comes here, we don't go there.
Last time he was here, he was talking to his uncle outside while he had a cigarette and I overheard him refer to me as his mate he games with. (One of the kids was playing in the garden while I was in and out sorting washing and he said my dd was "my mate I'm here to sees kid")
So I'm the mate he games with... Not the woman he's been sleeping with for 5 months :/
I don't know what to do.
ive tried talking to him but it's just excuses.