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What little things does your man do that really irritate you?

243 replies

Tex111 · 08/01/2007 14:47

My list includes:

Putting dirty nappies on TOP of the nappy pail rather than inside it.

Hanging his coat on the door handle of the coat closet rather than inside it.

Coming home from work, putting his very expensive suit jacket on the back of a kitchen dining chair then going to the bedroom to undress. Inevitably the jacket gets something smeared on it by sticky little fingers but he never seems to learn.

Forgetting to take his wet swim towel out of his gym bag then using one of our good bath towels the next time he goes for a swim leaving the mouldy gym towel for me to deal with.

Dumping his gym bag in the hall outside the cupboard that I cleared out especially for his gym bag.

When there are only a few dirty dishes he just shoves them in on top of the already clean dishes in the dishwasher and runs the whole lot again, thereby getting the dirty dishes somewhat clean and the clean dishes somewhat dirty.

Anyone else driven to the brink of insanity by little things like this??

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bookends · 10/01/2007 13:16

this is obviously a cathartic experience...so here goes

he spits on the bathroom taps when he brushes his teeth and denies it..

never unravels socks, shirts so I wash and hang them up as I found them...very liberating

throws wet clothes on to the dryer from some distance and has been known to put wet clothes on dry clothes!

bungs the shopping in the fridge willynilly, so I have to clean up spilt cream from the top to the bottom of fridge and the seepage over the kitchen floor.

farts in the bath?!?!

never says sorry..

Doesn't put away his size 11's and work bag so I stubb my toe numerous times during the evening

wanted to have it on record when he said the other day 'you were right'.

has a 'bull in a china shop' way about him and has broken numerous things in the house and felt not one ounce of remorse

dh is a supportive, encouraging, funny husband and doting father to our dds and I just grit my teeth most of the time. Though, occasionally I have wanted to belt the living daylights out of him, but a quick choccie bar dampens down this urge.

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 13:18

Like the socks and shirt idea

chopchopbusybusy · 10/01/2007 13:21

LOL at "People's Friend". Even my 80 year old Mum feels too young for that.

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 13:28

Yes...made me feel much much better as you can imagine...

jenwa · 10/01/2007 14:01

This is funny! Making me smile!

ginnedupmummy : why you let him in the bathroom to do a poo whist you in the bath, I would not tollerate that! My husband often says to me "you should have seen that" or "that was a proper guiness poo" and I think I really dont wish to look at it so to be in the same room must be awful! Tell him to hold on until after your bath, surely you should be relaxing not drowning!

I am sooo glad that all are men seem to be the same, they are truely one of a kind and maybe should live on another planet (or maybe they do as they dont seem to be in the same world as us!)

My husband can be brilliant or dam right lazy and its usually the latter! when he has a day off work he does not think he should get up to our daughter as it is his day off! Excuse me, when did I have a day off, last time I went away for a night he took our daughter to his parents so he could go out!

i do love him but he fits in with the majority of husbands/boyfriends listed here!!!!
Keep it up, good fun!

themoon66 · 10/01/2007 14:13

After 23 years of marriage, I still haven't got any idea why he needs to sit on the toilet for half an hour.

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 14:21

jenwa, ROFL at your paragraph (grin) very ..erm ...interesting descriptions...

Also dp never ever ever listens to anything.
Will offer him cup of tea, and he will say no. Then when I am drinking my cuppa, gets narky as I never offered him one! .

Always says he "doesn't know" what is wrong with computer, when in fact means he doesn't want to mend it

Frequently accuses me, and dc of not telling him anything, when in fact he hasn't listened..then refuses to accept it when we all gang up on him.

Uses back and front garden as local tip, currently have, bike, cupboard door, 3 planks wood, binliners of "Stuff" in back garden, and don't get me going on 10 ft iron girder that lived on front drive for 3 months in case it came in "handy". For what...?

Hoards everything until house is bursting, and I explode, making him throw out collection of cardboard boxes, pennies (he will change them one day...never)and general clutter.

Leaving important expenses receipts all over house on every surface, then moans when they disappear. Or I bin them.

I could go on for ever

JoolsToo · 10/01/2007 14:23

leave his shoes and coat within a foot step of the coat cupboard.

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 14:24

JoolsToo, that is also a teenage boy thing....

Ellaroo · 10/01/2007 14:36

Never empties the bath toys out of the bath or squeezes the water out of them so they go all mouldy

If I say it's his turn to bath the children he says they can do without one that night!

Leaves empty toilet rolls in the bathroom

Dresses ds in the same too-small jumper every time he has to dress him.

If he decides not to wear the freshly-ironed shirt that he's just got out from the drawer he puts it to be washed and ironed again instead of folding it back up

Uses the nice clothes I have bought him to do the painting in because he can't be bothered to change

Lets the children eat tomato-based suppers in their dressing-up clothes because he doesn't think about the poor sod who has to get the stains out of something with a hoop bigger than the washing machine!

Never puts shoes away.

Grrrrr, don't get me started, although reading this makes me think that they all do such similar things maybe it is just men being men rather than being purposefully lazy and inconsiderate!

Gingeme · 10/01/2007 14:36

Cant remember who it was who said their friend hoovered round her dh's undies for a year but since reading this thread I havnt picked ds's undies up all week. There still on the floor. Wonder if it will take for him to run out of undies before he puts them in the wash basket!! The sad thing about it is I have 4 sons. Wonder if their wives/girlfriends will be moaning about the same thingd when theyre grown up

ipanemagirl · 10/01/2007 15:00

when I'm about to serve up a meal when we have people over he'll suddenly fling a tea towell over his shoulder and try to take over the putting it on the table as if he's done the whole thing! Doesn't acknowledge that that's what he's doing either!

Cheats at scrabble.

Never remembers to tell me who's called

Won't write thank you letters ever that's my job.

Never cleans loo

scootermum · 10/01/2007 15:59

Eats all food as if he hasnt eaten for a week, without pausing for breath between mouthfuls.Sometimes I just cant bear to watch..
And he cant understand why he gets home so late form work every night and thus can offer no assistance with dd-its becuase he doenst leave on time.If you dont leave at 5 its unlikely you will be home by 6.30, when the jouney takes an hour and half.I can see that clearly and I cant understnad why he is so puzzled when he arives home at 8pm rather than 6.30 or 7 when he only left at 6.15..It as if he thinks the London traffic will clear automoatically just for him and the A10 will miraculously be clear all the way home to allow him to stay at work an hour later..

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 16:32

And giving dd a dream feed at 11.30pm, so he doesn't have to get up with her next morning. I dream feed her at 10.00pm and it makes absolutely no difference to the time she gets up at..

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 16:32

And giving dd a dream feed at 11.30pm, so he doesn't have to get up with her next morning. I dream feed her at 10.00pm and it makes absolutely no difference to the time she gets up at..

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/01/2007 16:36

He leave little piles of ash laying around on joss stick holders. I don't know they are there until I knock one over and ash goes everywhere! Fragrant ash but still...

[We are not hippies.. we just have an SN 6 year old who makes god-awful stinks that pervade the house! )

YeahBut · 10/01/2007 17:09

Leaves manky gym kit on the floor where he happens to get changed.
Ditto for t-shirt and pants in the bathroom before his morning shower.
Leaves the kitchen looking like a terrorist attack on Tesco.
If he doesn't know where something goes when he is emptying the dishwasher, he leaves it in to go through another cycle until it is my turn to empty it. I tested him once with some tupperware. It had six washes before I finally gave up.
Empties his pockets of coins leaving them in random piles ALL over the house.
Leaves crap everywhere, can't bring himself to throw anything away and complains that the house is cluttered and untidy.
Packs nothing but some pants, his PSP and blackberry on holiday but feels he can complain about how much I have packed for me and three children.
Says he'll clear up the kitchen as though he deserves a medal but doesn't do glasses, pans or trays or wiping down any of the surfaces.
Picks his eyebrows when stressed.

God better stop now.

fizzbuzz · 10/01/2007 17:35

Yeahyeahbut, totally sympathise with loads of crap all over house then complains house is untidy cluttered! So so been there...of course dh never notices his piles of crap...just everyone elses, he doesn't leave any apparently...

....which must mean he also walks on water.....

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Lysettes · 10/01/2007 21:24

mine asks me a question then doesn't listen to the answer, prompting repeated asks of same question

tidies up after me - this may sound like a godsend, but when i leave things where i know they are and then he's moved them I think I'm losing my mind

wakes ds (6 months) up at about 9pm when he gets home from work by talking to him and rubbing his cheek and then proclaims it wasn't him - when I can hear it all on the monitor!

constantly turns the TV over and goes straight to sport

but generally he's pretty great

mawbroon · 11/01/2007 09:50

-Acts all surprised when I tell him any kind of plan as if he had never heard it before when in fact I have told him it 100 times!
-Cleans out his electric razor by blowing all the stubble out of it. It very often lands in my contact lens case which has to be left open to dry in the air. Bristles in the eye are not pleasant.
-Asking where I have hidden things when he can't find them.

DetentionGrrrl · 11/01/2007 10:08

Leaves every light on in the house as he goes room-to-room. Ends up looking like Blackpool, and i end up sounding like my Dad 'Tsk, wasting electricity...'

VoluptuaGoodshag · 11/01/2007 11:32

Apparently the not being able to find things in front of their nose is to do with the way their brain is programmed. For example if they are shouting (because they never ask quietly) where the butter is, they are looking for the actual word 'butter' so if the tub is turned round the other way they cannot see it. They also have worse peripheral vision than women so whilst they can see distances in front of them they cannot see the whole picture (something to do with ancient hunting instinct). There are stats to prove that most side on impacts in car accidents happen to men because they don't see things coming from the side.

dotcotton · 11/01/2007 11:38

Thanks to this thread i now have the biggest smirk on my face every time dh commits one of these offences, it's great it makes them all a bit less irritating.

Last night i was chopping some food at the worksurface, he went to look in the cupboard in front of me, opened it so the door was in front of my face and then asked me where something IN THAT CUPBOARD was.. amazing...needless to say right in front of him but how did he think i could see through the door??