Busy single parent missing sex

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So I am refurbish the house me and my ex used to live in to get it back on the market after the last tennants trashed the place. I getting the bathroom sparkly clean when I remembered the hot steamy sex we had in that bath tub once after work. It brought back a great memory then really strong sadness. I am full time worker and single parent and currently a builder/painter and decorator too in what little free time I have till the house is sorted. In fact I have had to use valuable time off work to do the work on the old house. Anyway I am super busy and when not at work and am busy raising young kids.

That memory made me feel really horny. Me and my ex without going into too much detail had a very good and exciting sex life. We were very compatible in that respect. Now I am a single parent I don't get any free time/oppertunity to meet anyone. It feels like I am never going to have sex again. Almost like I have become a nun. It's a massive come down when you used to have such a good sex life and have a fairly high drive. Of course the kids always come first and the are worth the sacrifice. But I am 32 and feel the best years are slipping away from me.

Anyone here know the feeling?

Oh heck 1Dad, you've pulled on Mumsnet? By a bloke?
I wish I had a little of the allure you have!🤗

Not too bad going I will admit. You could argue that I am already half way there. I got a very nice offer, just need to get the gender right. I suppose once I have a string of lady PM's I have made it.

Why on earth do some men think that sending cock pics is an acceptable seduction tecnnique.

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It's mystery. Luckily he didn't PM me a cock. To be fair he was very polite about his proposal. So is the cock thing an epidemic on online dating? Do people say no cock pics please because they always get loads or to avoid such things in the first place?

Well all is going well. A been chatting to a few likemind people. Mainly nice normal women in the same boat as me. Possibly something in the pipe line.

On the issue of the difference of experience for me and women on casual OLD I found this article mashable.com/2010/08/03/craigslist-casual-encounters/#PeuEbgNn7gqK

The writer research suggest that when it's a matter of casual dating there is a massive difference in ratio between men and women.

You're right Dad in that women get far, far more offers of casual sex than men.

When I was after finding a FWB before I signed up with AdultFriendFinder, on the basis that at least people messaging had paid to do so and were less likely to be flakes. Within a week of putting up a profile I had received over 750 messages, (probably a third of which contained dick pics.) I was about a size 20 at the time, mid-thirties, and included body shots. If I'd been a size 12 in my twenties maybe my inbox would have actually exploded.

I did find someone nice by the way :) I hope you do as well.

Thank you doofus. I am doing ok, a few may be's. If I honest I am pleased with. It is nice to feel wanted especially with all the competition. The trouble is time at the moment. But definitely happy to discover there are female counterparts in the same boat simply looking for some nice adult company. Especially the ones who understand having to work it around the kids.

It still amazes me about the dick photos. I am no prude, in fact far from it but a hello and here's my dick WTF? I just don't see why you would do that as an introduction. Personally I don't need to see everything anyway. Just a nice normal clothed picture to judge genral attraction. If there is genral attraction and good conversation it's a green for me. No one's perfect. For me it my mind that needs feeding not my eyes. Enguage my mind and everything else will follow. Anyway that's my opinion. But yes having fun and starting to find myself again.

I did adulthub, when DH walked out and I became insanely aroused.

Had some very nice experiences, met some lovely guys with a similar mindset, scratched the itch and really explored my sexuality.

I was rock bottom when I set up my profile, and felt so unattractive after my relationship and the way my ex made me feel. I almost did it to throw myself on the funeral pyre. But I had so many compliments, attention and messages from attractive, intelligent likeminded people. Rather than feeling sordid and seedy I felt confident, empowered and adored.

Good for you JunkBox.

I think the whole thing is nice providing you meet the right people. Lots of nice everyday people with needs and desires. And of course healthy sex is very beneficial for body and mind. No need to be ceedy. Half the time it ceedy because people are so up tight with their attitudes and judgment.

It a new chapter in my life and time to explore the world and my self with fresh eyes. Plus have fun doing it. All I need now is to magic some free time.

hi first time on here I'm a single dad two boys for one year and I am so fed up

Doofus i know what you mean. ( I dont online date a. im married b. its not for me....i dont like the sound of the sweetshop mentality that goes with it) but since getting down to a UK size 12/14 from a size 28 i get asked out a fair bit in the street and in supermarkets of all places.

When i was larger i got ignored or abused in the street. Im 42 nearly 43.

750 messages is LOADS

Hi Dad (that sounds so wrong!). How are you getting on? Have you set up any dates yet? And AnthonyKay, has this thread given you any food for thought?

Well I didn't want to spoil the suprise and save it for tomorrow. But since you asked it going ok. I have met a few potentials and had a great time chatting. The main problems is my free time, their free time (mainly single mums in same boat) and distance. But suprise how many single parents like me just looking for some fun and excitement. I think in a way it's very nice that two people can enjoy each other just for the fun and experiance of it without a feeling of obligation or need for commitment. It's very freeing. The main thing is being your self and being honest and open about your circumstances and what you are seeking.

Anyway basically I have something lined up for tomorrow night. We have been chatting a few days and talking on the phone. We are both looking for the same and very sexually compatable. The sexual chemistry feels right and we are both very up for it. The be honest we are having a lot of fun. Her kids are lateteens and I have a babysitter all night. So hopefully we have a great night of fun and leave with smiles on our faces in the morning.

Thanks everyone for reminding me I can be a single parent and still have a sex life (occasionally).

Ha ha, my dad would have a field day with on-line dating, it's not a good thought.

Very pleased that you have got to this point though and I hope tomorrow night goes well! There is a whole world out there that I didn't know about when I was married, and more than the obvious two options (single or monogomous relationship). Have fun, be safe - and let us know how it goes 😆

That sounds great.

I think it works better as two single parents because you appreciate the effort put in (I think my meet ups had more thought than a UN conference) and that with level headed rational people you respect the boundaries and privacy needed, but also enter a respectful meeting and make each other feel sexy, fun and good.

Just don't put too much pressure on yourself and be safe.

I had two very nice meets with a guy in hotels, was such a cool kind of fantasy thing - lunchtime lovin' in the Novotel.

Report back to let us know you are ok, but not too much detail.

So last night was a lot fun and giggles.

I booked a hotel local to her. Turns out it was her first time at this. She was very nervous. In fact she later told me she very nearly bottled it last minute. Her being so nervous made me realise I needed to step up a bit. I am a little shy normally but it was clear I just had to live for the moment, take her by the hand and lead the way. So i was really not sure how it would pan out.

We got into the room with ours supplies of wine and chocolate. We sat on the bed together made a little awkward small talk. We started kissing and everything just started to flow naturaly. Without going into find detail once the lid was of the box it was very wild, intense and natural. Not awkward at all like I had feared. We were very well matched on the kinky scale.

Most of all it was great fun and we had a good laugh. We had some good conversations when taking a breather between rounds. What was kind of nice is she was totally different from me and the sort of person I would never hang out with. But it worked and we both left this morning with cheeky grins on our faces.

So thanks everyone for telling me to give it a try. Its been great for my happiness and my confidence. The future looks even brighter. I think it definitely something I will do again.

Wow, I am so happy to read that, I'm really pleased for you. I can just imagine you leaving with cheeky grins on your faces. 😁 The first time I ventured into this sort of territory after splitting with my husband of 20 years I was due at my daughters harvest festival the next morning. Due to 'oversleeping' I was late, there was no hiding what I had been up to by the huge grin on my face, the confidence boost was amazing. Go forth and enjoy. Xx

Ah 1DAD that's fantastic to hear. And I bet you also made her feel amazing.

You both had the right mindset and maturity and I know what it would take from her to turn up. Kudos to her!

Hi,

I just found this thread yesterday and read the whole thing and was soooo interesting all the info and opinions as I am in the same situation.

I am a woman, I got divorced nearly 4 years ago and never had any other serious relationship afterwards.

I did online dating, for the purpose of finding "Mr Right" and have a relationship, but only found the wrong ones. But somehow they helped me get rid of some old patterns and behaviours.

I also worked with a relationship coach and got rid of my co-dependency issues for good.

I've had sex with 3 guys during these nearly 4 years but all was wrong because 2 of them just wanted sex and I was in my fantasy world with my pink-coloured glasses and imagining it would turn into so much more and it would be romantic and etc, and of course, it wasn't.

The third guy wanted a serious thing but we just weren't compatible.

Since the beginning of summer I feel a completely different person, having released all of that but patterns, and I don't fantasize anymore and see every man for who they are.

I'm not desperate anymore for a relationship, as I am in a very good place in my life with my family, business and friends and only want a serious thing if the right person comes along.

And, I also feel ready to have casual sex in the meantime.

I never liked the monogamy or nothing kind of thing. I always questioned if I could have something in between, and I miss sex soooo much!

I have taken the time to make love to myself, to explore my sexuality with myself, to know my likes and dislikes, and I am a very sensual person now. I just feel I filled my cup so much on my own that now I really feel I wanna share it with someone!

I really miss sex. And I understand now that having a connection with someone (emotional, physical or whatever) doesn't mean we are compatible for anything serious, so I'm fine and accept if it's just fun.

So my question is, should I go on Tinder, how do I do this? I don't have any hot friends to do it.

My only concern is safety, bringing a nearly stranger to my house, or going into a nearly stranger's house, know what I mean?

Any advice for a woman doing this? Thanks! :)

I hear you. I'm in the same predicament and not sure if I'll ever meet someone.

Cool ats ok 👍

Try FEELD op
be as honest as you have been in this post abiut where you are at (less the ex , no one needs to hear about the ex ) , some nice recent photos

there are single women (and single mum) who want the same
and an open and candid profile

good luck 🤞

patati

there are many emotionally unavailable men who will want a FWB

same as my advice to OP

get on the apps and just be fairly honest and manage that oxytocin post sex 😁

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Guys this thread is almost 8 years old.