Husband of 22 years no longer loves me

[Heartbroken47]

Just before Christmas he said he has no feelings for me except as a friend (with benefits I might add).

He insists there is no one else. He had a breakdown and is seeing a therapist. He wants o try couples counselling after but can't promise the outcome.

He says we have nothing in common (except 27 yrs and two dc!) and that we've grown apart.

Before the breakdown he was declaring his undying love for me - now he says he was confused.

Is there any hope - can you fall back in love with someone you've stopped loving?

I am devastated :-(

Depression, my arse. He is being a cunt,

Do the 180. Great advice.

Thanks again. Just to clarify he is depressed - is taking antidepressants and is seeing a psychotherapist.
We both know the couple's counselling begin until his head is sorted.
The other thing I didn't mention is that he had the breakdown when he disclosed (to me) that he'd been raped age 9.
I'm sorry for not being totally up front but that part is very personal to him, so I didn't want to mention it but it might give another alternative to the OW scenario.
Our relationship was pretty good - not enough sex from his PoV, we both work hard and caring for our DC is hard work, but in the grand scheme of things we were doing ok, I thought.
I will do the reading and thanks again for all the advice.

I wouldn't delay getting a solicitor's advice frankly. This is a new situation for you, remember it isn't for him though. For him to have finally spoken the words to you he has probably working up to it for a while now. Emotionally speaking he is two steps or more ahead of you in imagining a future after the marriage. I'm very sorry OP - what I'm writing must be awful to read. I also feel firmly sure that there is another woman he is either with or wants to be with. I worked in family law for a decade and I can say with depressing certainty that men never initiate the end of a marriage without a new partner to move on with, whereas women often do initiate divorce without the hope or existence of a new partner. I really think men are cowards like that, afraid to live alone when they've been used to the comfort of a woman taking care of their emotional and physical needs. Good luck OP!