Have nc'ed for obvious reasons! A very close friend has confided in me that she is thinking of having an affair. They are having an emotional affair already, but nothing else has happened yet. I think she was just bursting to tell someone, but I feel like she's making a huge mistake and I should be trying to help her see that. Or do I just keep out of it and just be a listening ear when she wants to talk? She has always had bad judgement, so as a friend I feel as I should at least try to help, but I don't want to come across as judgemental.
I suppose I am already being judgemental by saying she's making a huge mistake. Some background so I don't drip feed. She is a SAHM, two DDs at primary school, nice husband. She says she's happy in her marriage, but it's a bit dull and she wants to feel some excitement again.
She has a lovely life in my view - she didn't go back to work after her first maternity leave and adores being at home for her girls after school and in the school holidays. She hated her job and wasn't sad to leave. I have suggested maybe she should go back to work part time and that would provide something different in her life. But she says she didn't like her profession and that work wouldn't provide her with what she needs and actually she prefers not working.
I have also suggested date nights (I was grasping at straws at this stage), but they already do that. I just think that everyone's marriage is less exciting once you have children and can be less carefree etc. But the offset is the contentment of family life.
How would you advise? I want to give it another go advising her (in a gentle way) because I think she will really regret it if she follows through and has a full blown affair.