Can physical attraction grow? Opinions please

[rumred]

I'm seeing someone who is overweight and has lots of excess flesh. I've no problem with this in theory and we get on very well but I'm struggling with the physical side.

This has hit crisis point as I'm struggling with sex and don't feel able to say why. It would seem so unkind.I'm no spring chicken and have had relationships with a variety of people. I really want to fancy this person but naked I don't.

Has anyone been in this position? My friend said attraction can grow as you get to know someone better. Given how well we get on I'm hoping this is true. But I don't want to cause unnecessary upset by us getting closer and rejecting them later on.

I've never been shallow or rude but this is making me question myself. Any thoughts?

I fancied DH from the minute I saw him. It was sheer lust. It wore off but by then I was in love and I fancy him even more 7 1/2 years later. He is almost two stone heavier, his thick dark hair is going grey rapidly, he has lnes around his eyes but he smiles at me or does one of his daft things or is lovely to Ds and I just go weak inside.

I don't think it can grow from nothing but I think it can develop and change and deepen.

I'm ok rumred thanks. Just disillusioned!

Disillusioned isn't good. I hope you get back on track soon.

I ended the relationship. Took responsibility for it, and, well, it is my responsibility. Amicable but sad.

It was the right thing. I was just hoping there was a way to change my feelings but I know deep down I can't. Thanks for everyone's input

Aww. It's for the best though. Let her go to find someone who can't their hands off.