Can we have a lovely thread about lovely relationships?

[trashcanjunkie]

I've had some fucking shit over the years, proper wanker family stuff, nc from half of them, and also some terribly abusive relationships. It reached a pinnacle about ten years ago and I was a single mum of three for about seven years. I was often very, very lonely, but totally couldn't imagine being in a successful relationship, as I didn't believe there was such thing for me.

About five years ago I was introduced to the loveliest man, and after a year of getting to know him as a friend, we got together. Everything about how we got together was heartwarming. We have been a couple for four years and we moved in together about a year and a half ago. We're getting married next spring and I'm bloody excited to be a bride for the first time at 38. He's all of the things I could have wished for - seriously. I feel so lucky.

I'd love to hear about others happy relationships. I never believed this could happen for me, and I'm wondering if others have similar experiences?

What a lovely thread and have really enjoyed reading all of these...hoping one day I can contribute X

I have a lovely relationship with myself.

I am very happy!

There is another post about Prunella Scales, who seems still to have a lovely relationship with her husband, Timothy West.

I didn't get married until I was forty. DH was married before but it didn't work out. He is an amazing human being. We have our moments but we are best friends first and that really matters. We are from similar backgrounds so have a lot in common. We can always make each other laugh and there is a lot of humour in our lives which I think is very important. He has been very ill but I nursed him and he would do the same for me if I got ill. It's the knowing that that person is there for you in all circumstances that adds the glue.

I too have had some shockingly bad relationships. I was aware they were not good. With this, it feels totally different.

Dh asked me to marry him again last night. We were sort of pushed into a big wedding the first time round when all we really wanted to do was bugger of to NYC or something and do it alone. We're going to vegas next year for my brothers wedding and he wants us to sneak off and have a renewal on our own whilst we're there. Hes been looking into it secretly. Love him.

Am so glad to read others lovely stories. It does restore a bit of faith that relationships can be happy and fulfilling.

What a lovely thread.

DH and I have our ups and downs (my screen name is accurate) but he's such an excellent husband and father.

When we were visiting NZ last my mother asked him at one point if he ever says No to me (I think I'd asked him to make me a cup of tea or something). He said "Sometimes I get irritated and want to tell her to do it herself, but then I think of all the little things she does for me that I don't even have to ask for and realise that I can never do enough to make up for those. So then I'm happy to do what she asks."

My mother was quite moved and told me I'm a very lucky woman. I certainly feel it.

Kiwi Aw that's lovely

My DH is a thoroughly nice bloke and I don't know how I'd manage without him. He's clever, and funny, and kind, and an unbelievably good Dad. He's a great friend, great at his job, and an all round nice guy. I know I'm biased but seriously, I think he's great.

And the thing is, his childhood was awful. His parents are utterly toxic and he and his siblings were subjected to really horrendous physical and emotional abuse. His 'D'F certainly did nothing to show him what being a good husband and father meant - quite the opposite.

And he didn't come out of that unscathed. He has ongoing mental health issues and we have moments which are incredibly tough as a result. It has taken him years to understand that none of what happened to him was his fault and that everything he has worked hard for he deserves. He tries really hard at being a Dad, I think because he doesn't rely on just knowing how to behave because he learnt it from his parents. Our DC adore him and they absolutely should.

I wish he'd stop using every single item in the kitchen when he cooks though. It really does my head in