Why can't I just end it and move on. I'm bored and stuck but scared of not meeting anyone else ever. What's wrong with me?

[Stage8]

I've been seeing someone for 18 months now. We see each other once or twice in the week but not much at weekends due to childcare issues (we both have children) I realise I don't feel particularly happy in this relationship, I'm rather bored, even messages in between calls and, meeting are fairly uninteresting. I'm beginning to wonder if there could be more to a relationship (actually, I know there could be). I've got quite an active social life in other ways, have a few male friends who are interested in me (I'm not in them). I'm scared to get out of this relationship I guess for fear of not meeting anyone else I like and being on my own for the rest of my life. I feel scared, stuck and wasting my life but don't know what to do. Any advice?

I think you need to be honest with your DP and yourself.

I think I do. You're right. It's lovely seeing him but the whole thing just doesn't feel right. All my friends tell me lots of men will be interested but I'm so worried I won't want anyone else. Life is just passing me by while we go on.

I felt like that towards the end with the last bloke I was seeing. I did end it and have been single about 6 months and am far happier than I was then. I think it's kind of mourning the end of that relationship before you end it. If you know its not right 18months in, it's not likely to get better. Being single with the prospect of meeting someone new is better than being in a sub standard relationship. I have had to work a bit on building my social life back up, but getting there.

If it's making you frown, more than you smile, I'd call it a day. No point sticking about, if it's not doing it for you.