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Have I done the right thing or have I scared him off??

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Annie34 · 03/04/2016 21:25

Met someone through OLD a few weeks ago. He was very keen at first but then I started to notice after our 3rd date the texts started to become a bit more few and far between. I saw him on Friday but since then again he's hardly text me, so I text him today to ask him outright if he was still interested because I basically I don't think I should waste my time if he's not bothered. His reply was "hi I'm fine thanks..busy day...I didn't think I was being like anything but now you come to mention it I don't think we are matched for a relationship..I do enjoy your company though" now to me I took that to read yeah I like you but maybe only as a FWB? I don't know if I'm being a bit too forward as we haven't known each other long or what? Any wise words from fellow MN's would be appreciated Smile

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Annie34 · 03/04/2016 21:28

Met someone through OLD a few weeks ago. He was very keen at first but then I started to notice after our 3rd date the texts started to become a bit more few and far between. I saw him on Friday but since then again he's hardly text me, so I text him today to ask him outright if he was still interested because I basically I don't think I should waste my time if he's not bothered. His reply was "hi I'm fine thanks..busy day...I didn't think I was being like anything but now you come to mention it I don't think we are matched for a relationship..I do enjoy your company though" now to me I took that to read yeah I like you but maybe only as a FWB? I don't know if I'm being a bit too forward as we haven't known each other long or what? Any wise words from fellow MN's would be appreciated

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heyday · 03/04/2016 21:28

Sounds like he just wants to be friends. At least you know now so the ball is in your court now..... friendship or bail out completely.

WellErrr · 03/04/2016 21:29

He's not interested. Move on.

Next!!

InaMay · 03/04/2016 21:30

That is his way of telling you he's just not that into you. You haven't scared him off. you gave him the forum to tell you how he felt; "now you come to mention it...". God forbid he'd have the testicles to mention it himself. Anyway, looks like he's a goner. Sorry. You did the right thing asking him IMO, life is too short for game playing and second guessing head wrecking. Now you know. Onwards.

SouthWestmom · 03/04/2016 21:32

It's Sunday and you saw him on Friday and already texted home to say he was being less in contact? Blimey, I'd be a bit Hmm at that and less keen.

SouthWestmom · 03/04/2016 21:32

Him not home

Minime85 · 03/04/2016 21:35

Yep you were right to ask, better to know and I think he just didn't have guts to come out and say it. Move into next one and have some fun

WetLettuce123 · 03/04/2016 21:38

He's letting you down gently.

Trills · 03/04/2016 21:40

He's not interested, and is not brave enough to actually tell you so properly.

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Annie34 · 03/04/2016 21:45

Thanks for all your replies. I suppose I knew he wasn't really that interested. It's kind of telling when they're texting you all the time but then it suddenly stops. Oh well...next!

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Trills · 03/04/2016 21:51

One more frog down.

WetLettuce123 · 03/04/2016 22:14

Exactly, at least you haven't wasted too much time on him. Onwards and upwards!

TheNaze73 · 03/04/2016 22:38

I'm with noeuf At least you know & can move on. Think it's a shame he didn't tell you, he wasn't feeling it

MyKingdomForBrie · 03/04/2016 22:42

Next!! Don't waste any time wondering about this one.

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