DH has always, but even more so now, done something occasionally that's quite out of order and unfair, and when I've tackled him on it he's turned it round onto me and how awful I am and says how he can do as he likes and then sulks with me and says I'm childish.
For example tonight he came home from work tonight in a foul mood, and was being all cocky and childish with smart arse comments that I knew he was going to be like it tonight. I put 6 year old DS to bed at about 8 and then DH went into our room and put on loud music and started singing really loudly. I went into our room and said could he be a bit quieter as DS was in bed now and he went mad at me, saying how dare I speak to him like that, and to get out of the room and that he can do as he pleases and he's not putting up with that shit from me.
He has stayed in the bedroom since and I just went up to try to talk to him calmly and again he was saying I'm awful and that I spoke to him like shit (I didn't!) and have I heard myself as I sound like a 7 year old. All I was doing was saying it's unfair of him to sulk and that I was just asking him to keep the noise down. DH is also the first to moan about any noise if it doesn't suit him...
It makes me so angry as whenever I try to talk about anything he just says things like 'Listen to yourself, you're pathetic' and 'You sound like a child' and has even threatened to record me on his phone and put it on FB and tag me so everyone can hear how pathetic I am.
I feel like I can never tackle him on anything as he goes mad and takes it out of proportion, also he will be sulking now for the next few days so that won't be pleasant.
I had abusive parents so it's difficult to make a judgement call on whether he's being horrible or if I really am awful :(
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Is this gaslighting?
ElephantSuperhero · 30/03/2016 22:06
He would record you and tag you on Facebook 
Doesn't that sound like the action of a 7 year old? ?
I think he wants out but he's going to be a big prick hoping you do it. So please please find the strength and courage to leave this arsehole. No one deserves this.
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