Clearly when we saw the psychiatrist, he was listening only to himself. He said he was sorry he called me a cunt and lost his temper. But...But... that he'd said sorry already and it was my fault I hadn't heard. I said I took these things very seriously. I have been in touch with WA and have someone locally to talk to. I said I was fed up with saying something and he responds with Don't (think, say, do). I have had snitches of what it feels like to be frigid and I told him. He asked if it was him and I said yes, it is. I am menopausal, but I never anticipated in a fit that I would dread sex. Perhaps it is because I am menopausal that I would like to feel loved, not that sex is done at me. He left the building, and insists on being right. I said that too, that he is always right, and by definition that makes me always wrong. I also told him that our relationship is heading towards separation and divorce. He has a therapist, but has not talked about his temper. I am rambling. I am not yet in a state to leave and in RL have no family support.
My older dd has been having problems, and I have talked to her a little bit about this. I am certainly not perfect. My original family was crap and I have been bullied by my father to within an inch of my life. That was straightforward hardcore bullying. This is not. My husband compares himself to my father and worships himself.