why am I not getting any messages

[Tigger2016]

On POF? I have put my best three pictures up - have a lighthearted friendly profile - lots of views but no one seems to be interested in messaging me

I'm getting replies now so they must be working!
Had a date yesterday!

Oh wow how did it go?

Yes, tell us how the date went.

Hi

Date went really well. Met for a drink at 2:15 chatted for over two hours and he wants to go for a meal this Friday

Sounds good then. I'm assuming you've said 'yes' to the meal with him on Friday?

Yes. I've agreed. Just need to sort technicalities out

So you fancy him?!

I'm not sure yet - he's attractive - and we speak everyday on the phone - need to see him to see if there's any chemistry - couldn't really tell on the first date

Did you tick the category 'Wants to date but nothing serious' more men seem to fall into this. That doesn't mean they wouldn't get serious but they just don't want to let on.

Also make sure you haven't stopped any age group in particular - check the settings.

Not that I do OLD any longer I can't be bothered!

Ignore my post sorry didn't read the end of the thread!

"need to see him to see if there's any chemistry - couldn't really tell on the first date"

Yeah I think sometimes you can get a better impression of somebody the second time around, because first date nerves and any awkwardness have usually settled a bit; unless the first date is a complete disaster (which your one sounds like it wasn't).

Hope it goes well then on Friday; it's all good practice anyway if it doesn't end up working out this time.

He's v keen. He's just messaged me telling me he fancies the pants off me!

That is weird Tigger, you posting about POF. My friend signed me up on Sunday night without me knowing. She 'borrowed' my phone. I didn't get any notifications until the following morning (extremely hungover and thinking wtf at my phone pinging loads when I put it on charge). I woke up and I had 222 notifications. Messages and men saying that they wanted to 'meet' me. I don't even know what that meant. I deleted POF the following day because it was a PITA...all the pinging and I saw stbxh on there.

So maybe they (the POF official people) delay accounts and that is why you had a slow start?

A word of advice here. Please keep an open mind on POF and all other OLD sites. A lot of the chemistry is about online banter, Please take things slowly.
I have met some very unstable men on OLD( yes I know they are not all weirdoes)
A lot of them are well seasoned players, very convincing too.
don't open up too much about yourself, it is a good way of sorting the wheat from the chaff.
If they are genuinely interested they won't mind waiting to become emotionally or physically invested IYSWIM.

Date Update

Lovely man but no spark has invited me to his on Monday night. Wants to cook me a meal. Not comfortable with that. Told him and he said well the offers there if you change your mind, let me know.

Bit soon to go back to his IMO go for a few more dates out

Will see if he contacts again. Not really fussed whether he does or not tnh

#tbh

And am def NOT going to his house

Don't think I'll see him again.
Lovely man just not for me. Do i have a rest or jump back in :/

Jump back in!

Jump back in if it's what you want to do and you feel comfortable trying again. Most here on Mumsnet that have done online dating will likely tell you that you need to filter quite a few people out to stand a chance of meeting somebody who is right for you.

Probably not many daters meet someone perfect for them on the first try.

Thanks - onwards and upwards !