This is my first mn posting, I have been wanting to ask advice/get this off my chest to someone for a long time - sorry it's quite long. dh & I have known each other 14 yrs (married 8 yrs - 2 wonderful kids). 2&1/2 yrs ago I was lying on the bed one evening, happy exhausted & relaxed, & said "I don't think I can move" - next thing dh had dragged me off bed by my ankles (like a magician whipping off a tablecloth leaving plates etc on table). It really hurt & I was very shocked - I told him it had hurt, what the hell did you do that for? I lay down again & a second later he did it again. When I sat up I was stunned & crying & he stood there & said "What are you crying for?" Long story short, a day later I ended up in hospital having appendix removed. This was such a weird incident & I feel that it has spoiled what we had (he doesn't think it should). He cannot explain it - says that it was/started out as a "joke" & that "he is not a violent man". Nothing like this had ever happened before or has happened since. Our relationship has really deteriorated since & we row alot. Sounds dreadful to say/in fact impossible, because I love our kids so much & wouldn't be without them, but if that had happened before we had them, I would have left him. He is a good Dad & the kids love him dearly. I want to put this behind me and move on but am finding it really hard – I cannot it.