I thought I had met the perfect man! He would do anything and everything for me. He would woo me and romance me, over whelm me with gifts and make out he was so into me. We had been on and off for 9 years. Finally, thinking I'm not going to find a man this crazy about me, someone I can trust, rely on, depend on and respect. I loved him but not crazy love, just a comfortable love, thinking things could only get better cos we had so much in common.
Sex had also been on and off during that time, but when we got engaged, I said I want to wait till the wedding night so it would be special. So we got married, all this time his out there, arranging the wedding, going with me to the dressmakers, though he didn't see the dress, taking me to the jewellers, he did almost everything, all the wedding preparations. Wedding day went well, but for the wedding night, we had a massive row, caused by a family member earlier in the day, so we slept with our backs to each other and did not do anything.
After 3 weeks of no sex, one day, we did the deed! Something felt strange about it. That morning he went to work, I was at home. I decided to look at his iPad, I knew his passcode. I saw a text message and when I clicked on it, there was a photo of a prostitute. We got married in September, 2 weeks later he had been booking a prostitute. My heart just sank! I couldn't believe what I was seeing. Then I digged deeper and opened up a whole can of worms. He'd been using prostitutes for as long as we had been together. He had a prostitute from AW 2 weeks before we got married. I found so much information and emails where he had been contact with prostitutes. I was sickened. I couldn't believe this man I trusted, who I never imagined could do such a thing - had been having prostitutes and also asking for sex with out a condom! obviously we had also been having sex without a condom! I did go and get checked out and all was clear. I kept quiet for a weeks to obtain more info. He than contacted a so called friend who he met via AW, who was an escort, and asked her if she knew anyone who he could have as a regular prostitute, and she suggested her self. And he said that though it felt odd as they were friends, they could drown a couple of glasses of wine and see how things go and stop if it gets uncomfortable, to which she replied - like a typical prostitute, she doesn't need it and to let her know when his ready.
Finally I couldn't keep it to my self anymore and confronted him. First he tried to blame me, saying I wasn't alway up for sex, and I clearly told him - I was not to blame for his pathetic actions. Unfortunately - I'm still married to him. But 2 years on, I am still angry and feel extremely betrayed with what he did and cannot forgive him. This was both of ours 2nd marriage, my parents adore him. I am indian and don't want to hurt my parents. But am not happy. I really do not like him and he disgusts me. We do not have sex much at all. And we don't talk to each other much and sleep in separate beds. I can't believe the man who said he'd never let me down - was a liar and a cheat of the worst kind. I needed to have it out there. He made me waste my years with him when I could have met a genuine sincere person who has morals and integrity and not a insecure lowlife who has to pay for sex!