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New Year? New mates?

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:25

Oooh, I'm so ready to dump a group of mates!
I used to be included in everything but that stopped a while ago, then last night at my birthday dinner they started having a discussion about what they were doing today, in front of me and did not invite me! At my bloody birthday dinner.

Now, I'm not a princess who thinks I'm it and should be included in everything, but a bit of sensitivity ladies purleeese!

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ledodgy · 05/01/2007 11:27

Do they ahve children? If not they may just think you will be too busy looking after yours. If this is the case speak to them and tell them how you feel. If not it may be time to cull the friendship.

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:28

Yeah, all mum mates!

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LoveMyGirls · 05/01/2007 11:28

Thats so unkind, do they expect you to invite yourself along, would you want to go anyway? why have them at your birthday if they are such an insensitive bunch? how old are they?

I remember one year i didnt invite my friend of 10yrs out for my birthday because i thought i already had at some point, i knew she knew about it so i assumed as she knew about it that if she wanted to come and could get childcare then of course i would want her there.

ledodgy · 05/01/2007 11:29

That's out of order then.

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:32

All in late 30s early 40s.

I invited them because one of them made a song and dance about going out for my birthday and, believe it or not, I actually felt bad for the others who were there in case they felt left out!!!
Oh, and one of them had a new years party and didn't ask me. She asked everyone else in front of me!

I'm a sucker. Need to bin 'em!

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:34

F**k it though!
I got some cool pressies!

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mellowma · 05/01/2007 11:37

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:39

Yeah, fight shallow with shallow!

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mellowma · 05/01/2007 11:41

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:44

I think so. I'm sick of worrying that I am somehow not cool enough and wondering why they don't invite me.
I deserve better.

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mellowma · 05/01/2007 11:45

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:47

Not even sure how I got sucked into this. I hate cliques.

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:50

Maybe, but there were a few of us out and a couple of the other "less cool" people were also ignored and have been ignored and not invited to 4 or 5 parties and other stuff over the last year.

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HappyDaddy · 05/01/2007 11:51

You are not uncool. Their problem is that you are too cool for their clique and they know it. Their loss.

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 11:54

Too cool for school. That's me!

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mellowma · 05/01/2007 11:59

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 12:05

I'll concentrate on the geeky ones. Worked well in 6th form.

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mellowma · 05/01/2007 12:16

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FourJays · 05/01/2007 12:29

More interesting anyway

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