I'm asking this on behalf of a colleague who has asked my advice. A friend of hers has an abusive partner. A while ago he threw her out of their/his flat (I overheard the phone conversation when this happened which is why she has now confided in me) but they then made up.
Her group of girlfriends don't like him and are wary. The last time they went out together (the group of friends), her phone was on the table and he was constantly calling and texting - it bothered them (she ignored it). The friends are worried, but are not sure if there is anything they can actually do. Hence asking an older woman. I (and I thank God for this) have no personal experience, either directly or indirectly, but I am a long time mumsnetter so knew where to ask.
At the moment it seems they are trying to keep lines of communication open, but do not get the feeling that she sees anything as wrong. Their question is - what is the best thing to do in this situation when you suspect something is deeply wrong in another's relationship?
Obviously I am not party to the relationship and know very little of the detail, but I would like to support these women. I have passed on details of Women's Aid. What would you do/what have you done/what would you have liked someone to have done?