DP wants to leave

[confusedmum123456]

DP and me being together for two years, DC is 7 months old. My family lives far and DP's relatives have no interest in me and DC. We had to rehouse in a different town to afford the rent. No friend here, DP is out all day, I spend the days with DC just walking the streets or going swimming. Tried the local children centre but felt people were kinda reserved towards me, not going back. Basically no social life, no one to ask to babisit if I needed to go GP, etc.

Few days ago I discovered I was pregnant and told DP I didn't want another child yet. He said nothing back, not a hint that he didn't like the idea. While at the clinic today he called to say he doesn't love me anymore, can't trust me and I should have asked his opinion. He doesn't talk to me anymore. As far as I know him he won't get back his feelings for me, even if he didn't move out as he said. He has never been really supportive with DC, never changed a nappy or offered to wake up for the night bottle. I don't see how I could cope with two babies even if we stayed together.

But if we separate I'd loose all the benefits as only he is entitled to (I'm not from the UK). Gingerbread advisor has told me I cannot claim any benefits on my name and have no right for childcare support if I wanted to find a job. DP won't pay our rent and even if I get social housing I still won't get any financial help to make ends meet. I can look for a home-based job of course but no guarantee I'd find one quick enough. Plus I have to write a master thesis in a couple of months as I has postponed that because of DC.

If I move back to my country I can rely on my family with looking after DC but no work at my hometown and I'd have to go to a larger city and leave DC home.

I feel like I'm so stuck and don't know what to do. If I tried to stay in this relationship I don't think it'd last much longer; if we separated I'd have no money to support DC and me; if I got back to my home country I'd have to be a burden on my family, live in a different city and leave DC at their care.

Sorry for the long post, I tried to cut long story short as much as possible. Please give me an advise, I'm so lost and scared. Thank you.

Nothing really helpful to add, just wanted to say you might want to try going back to the child play center. A couple of friends of mine met each other at one, both had been dumped by their partners and needed help with childcare so they could work. They arranged to babysit each others child whilst they worked part-time, they've been doing it for two years now and it works great for them. I know it seems unlikely, but people generally will want to help.

Thank you for the suggestion goddessofsmallthings, I will call turn2us. Didn't occur to me before.

VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon I can work but I also need to write a master thesis while looking for DC. Plus I can claim only once at work so I have to pay someone to babisit while I attend interviews, etc. Maybe I should focus on finishing the studies first as I cannot afford to postpone (I'm on a scholarship and postponed already as long as the limit allowed).

And I should really give the child play centre a second go, as much as I feel awkward about it.

Thank you all for the kind messages and support, you have really helped me feel I'm not so alone. I really appreciate it.