I met my husband 10 years ago and had a brief fling, he was 8 years younger and ended up with his friends girlfriend and got her pregnant, she was 15 years younger than him, we remained friends and after they had been together about two years she had an affair, they split she moved in with chap she had affair with and eventually we got back together , he obviously had contact with her and it took a good while for him to get over her, she kept him in tow when she felt like it!!!! We eventually moved in together 6 years ago when I got very ill for a good year , he looked after me and then a couple of years later asked me to marry him, we got married and then it went wrong!!!! The ex got involved with SS and they wanted us to have my husbands son as his mum was a big drug taker and had lots of partners and by now also had another child by somone else who she didn't want to have a relationship with, anyhow my husband wouldn't take his son and by now I felt like I was banging my head against a brick wall and was taught to protect children...he was drinking so much it was untrue and smoking pot all the time , It turned out he was protecting his ex because they had been having an affair 8 months after we were married, I contacted SS and told them everything about what had been going on as he obviously wasn't going to tell the truth about what was going on with his sons mother, also that he was drinking and smoking weed as it was obvious that he couldn't be trusted, I asked him to leave , so we could have space, and work on sorting stuff out, after all he was my best friend and we are married! !! People make mistakes and a young attractive girl throwing themselves at him became too much, ! We worked at our relationship and things were still strained as the ex wanted him back whatever , she would launch at him at vunarable moments and it turned out they had another fling in October, this time in a rage I took all his stuff back as he didn't admit this time until he was caught... He said he wanted to see if he could go back for his sons sake but wanted to stay with me, but now wanted a divorce !!! I am devistated , I set him up with his own business , I've looked after his children for 7 years, I paid off his debts and he repays me with this, he lies still to SS and lies to them about being with his ex, they hide the relationship and he still lies to me about it ! Why bother, he can't afford to divorce me and says well it's just the way forward and he wants me to pay so he can move forward, but then says we can be friends !!! Is he mad ? It's like I never even existed , he's moved on and that's that