Almost sure partner cheated

[Haribogirl]

So how do you get them to admit to it???

He does anything other than say YES I Have
I've even said I don't want to know who she is(although I'd love to know)
Why the f... Doesn't he admit it

We've been going through bad patch for past 18 mths, we go from getting on going out to us no speaking and him doing his own thing

NO KIDS, KNOW EXACTLY WHERE I STAND FIANCIALLY SO NO WORRIES THERE

I just wish that when I bring it up he'd just say no it's not working out, let's sell up!! But he's not he's saying nothing.
It's driving me mad, I need to know if there's any hope of us getting through this? If he wants too.
I do still love him, but if if loves somebody else then he can f... Off

I said your quite happy to see me walk through the door, and not put up a fight to stop me going. His answer was
How do you know that!!

Why won't he just talk(I know in the past it's got heated, and he hates feeling stressed out!!!) but he shouldn't be acting like a dick then.

I hate saying the dreaded words
WE NEED TO TALK
As he then says oh don't start again, I'm going out

I need to say something tonight it's heating me up inside

But what do I say????

Sorry kitty could you put what you mean??

What do you mean? Troll?

Sorry kitty
What do you mean?

Sorry for the confusion. I have a problem with the 'you're both unhappy' post. When one person is having an affair and starts being vile to passively force the relationship to break, it's pretty crap to say 'well you're both unhappy'. I know the OP isn't sure what's going on but it's probable that the relationship had quite a bit of help in its deterioration.

Sorry OP for talking about you as if you're not here

They mean they suspect Emmiy is your DP.

Thanks for translating Oriana

It's ok kitty
I see what you mean know I THINK(sorry to sound think, I'm really not)

You mean because he's being like he is to me, that his way of breaking our relationship up? And his way of knowing I wouldn't put up with his behaviour and how he's being with me?
Ie, forcing me to do something about it

Yes???

I think that that is a typical affair behaviour. Suddenly it's all arguing and not getting along and 'things aren't right between us'. Would that fit for you? I know it's horrible and you're desperate to know the truth, but we can't tell you and the person who knows the truth won't tell you. You should LTB for the disrespectful way he's treating you.

No excuses here
It's me that always says
Things aren't right between us, we're not getting on
Not him

I know nobody can tell me what do, just thought somebody might have idea how or what I could do to handle communication between us better if I'm not asking where he's been etc were fine! Is that an invasion of privacy????

Don't know if that makes sense!

With regard to the both being unhappy post, IF he has been having an affair and he's a lying and manipulative knob, and is consciously trying to make her unhappy, even more reason for her to leave (and that still means they're both unhappy). I'm not trying to blame her in the slightest.

Agreed. His behaviour is out of order, whatever he is or isn't doing regarding the missing watch and ?OW.

Don't be silly kitty. Of course I'm not her DP. She is unhappy and wants answers as to how to deal with it. He is unhappy with her questioning him about where he has been. Unless the OP has more information then it doesn't sound like an affair just because of a watch he bought. Had it been lingerie or hotel bookings etc then maybe. If he is not taking OP out for date nights and kissing her and being happy to spend time with her and talk then there is definately problems with the relationship. OP needs to sit him down and express that she feels that their relationship has deteriorated and what can they both do about it to be happier. If she is met by unwillingness to talk then she should suggest they separate for now to see how they both really feel . He will either hopefully talk or if he is not happy either he will agree to time apart.

It's over. You've been going through a bad patch for EIGHTEEN MONTHS. After eighteen months of this shit, why persevere?

You don't trust him. With good reason. His lame excuses where the watch is concerned are paper-thin. Generally, when you take something back to a shop for a refund you give up the original receipt. He goes out for a couple of hours 4/5 times a week and won't disclose to you where he's been.

Where there's no trust, there is no relationship.

It's over but he's too cowardly to take ownership of the break-up, and is pushing you to end it so he doesn't have to appear the bad guy. Put this prick out of his misery! And you, too. There's nothing here to salvage.

I've seen this pattern of behaviour too, usually with men.

Generally, they have emotionally checked out of a relationship, but haven't got their Plan B woman fully lined up.

So they stop investing in their primary relationship, focus their attention elsewhere. Their current partner, understandingly, isn't happy, but is forced to make the decision.

Because he has decided he's Mr Nice, who didn't dump his current partner & doesn't want to take responsibility for that.

It's really shitty to be on the receiving of the behaviour; those I know have lost their confidence/self-esteem.