Pregnant after two miscarriages, DP acting like a dick

[MuffyTheUmpireSlayer]

I just need a safe to rant/cyber cry right now.

I've had two miscarriages within the last year, both at 8 weeks, and have just found out that I'm 5 weeks pregnant again.

I've had a really shitty, stressful day at work today and left early because I needed to get home and relax. Instead of showing me any sort of comfort, DP goes into a huge rant at me because I messed up something with our finances. I know I messed up - I haven't destroyed us financially but I made a big mistake that has set us back a bit (we're saving for our first home), but considering the circumstances I'm really upset that DP laid into me so hard. I'm tired and emotional and he could see that he was upsetting me but just carried on having a go.

I'm just so upset and angry that he doesn't even seem to care that my stress levels need to be kept to a minimum. He doesn't seem to realise that his actions are going to affect my emotions and our pregnancy.

Now he's stomping around the house like a fucking bear and I just feel like walking out of the house and not coming back.

Oh and one more thing - please do not get any more joint debt in your name alone. If you split you'll end up paying it all off yourself. Another very good reason to pay your debt back more quickly.

I agree with Isetan and HellonHeels.
You call him DP not DH so that's another reason to protect yourself financially.

Hellon I won't be having anything else in my name. I can't be bothered with the hassle of having to be the one to deal with it!

How long have you been with your DP?

And for you as well - I had 2 miscarriages before DS and I remember the worry very well.

Katsuthe We've been together for 9 years now. We have one DC already but the age gap is already going to be big and we really want to have a larger family.

We don't usually have "joint things in my name" because we don't usually have joint things; we're both quite independent and it has just worked for us to have everything separate. Perhaps we need to start doing things differently!

Thank you for the flowers. It has been a horrible time, as I'm sure you know too well

Perhaps he is as stressed as you for same reasons.

You screwed up.

He screwed up in his reaction to your screw up.

You are both stressed, but you want him to cope better than you in a situation caused by you.

I think that if you look for fault in this situation you will be the one responsible for making it worse. Sometimes you just have to apologise and move on.

She didn't screw up though. He did, massively.

What Twinklestein said!