Devastated

[Dontknow12]

Just found my long term partner (16 years) has a profile on POF and has been on today. I don't know what to do. I only found it while snooping which I shouldn't have been doing I know. He has been working away one night a week for the last 3 weeks and now I am beginning to question that. My stomach is in knots. I mean I know that things aren't perfect but I didn't think in one million years he would cheat on me.

A few weeks of that will make you turn yourself in knots..he needs to know that you have found out, go alone and let him stew for a few weeks.

Have your holiday if you must, get your head straight and then you really do need to address this. Sticking your head in the sand ain't gonna work, you can't unknow what you now know and it will eat you away from the inside. Take it from someone who has been there!
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but this isn't going to go away. Yes it is horrible and scary but doing nothing and imagining the worst is horrible and scary too. You do have choices and you may possibly be able to save your relationship if that's what you both want, but you can't try to fix it if you aren't talking about it. And if he isn't committed to wanting to change then your choices are to continue "sucking it up", while more time goes by and your self esteem goes down the pan, or realise you deserve better and walk away.
Good luck x

I also think you should leave him at home. 1. Because I don't think he deserves to go away with you and 2. Because it will give you some time to get your head around this without him making special efforts whilst away and not dealing with the stresses of normal life.