Am I in love with her?

[mgmaner]

As a man I feel a bit misplaced on here but looking around it looks like these are just relationship questions so I hope you can help. I feel a bit confused about how I feel about a woman and wondered if maybe I am in love with her.

I have loved one other girl once (I am late twenties) but that wasn't the same and it built up a lot more slowly whereas this is like being hit by a truck.

I do know her quite well and like her as a person a lot, she is probably one of the kindest, cleverest and funniest people. I fancy her more than I have ever fancied anyone. It's a bit abnormal how much I fancy her I think I can't even fancy anyone else if I tried to. I love being with her, it makes me feel excited, happy, relaxed and at home and she just fascinates me when she talks and she gets me to see things in a new way. I have no idea really what she sees in me. If I think about losing her, I feel really sad.

Is that what being in love is?

I haven't ever felt such a powerful feeling before about anyone but for various reasons I wasn't seeing her as a girlfriend (which I know she wants).

If you can't deal with her having children then you need to stop leading her on. Remember, if you love someone then you need to let them go!.

I honestly think that if you loved her you would know it. Keep it casual but do make sure that you tell her it absolutely cannot go anywhere because you don't want to be with someone who has children.

Tell her so that she can decide whether to keep the casual relationship with you or look for a more suitable partner. Be honest with her, stop treating her badly.

It's probably a lust thing...enjoy it but be honest and don't make out it's anything that it's not.