We've been together for seven months, but the first four months we only saw each other at alternate weekends, until I moved closer to my bf. During that time and for the next month or so it was very loving and passionate, although he's always been quiet and very shy, easily embarrassed. We spoke every day whilst I lived further away, we've seen each other every day since I moved closer. I adored him, thought he was the man of my dreams, I'd never felt love like this before.
He has a chronic illness that means he often feels unwell and very tired. I knew this from the start and the effect it has on him, but it's worse than I expected, more often than I expected ..
Now we rarely sleep together and don't kiss much either. The love letters have stopped, the declarations of love too, except for a quick Love you at bedtime. We don't spend the night together, because I have a daughter and he doesn't sleep well at mine anyway - and because he's not well he needs his sleep. I understand that.
He assures me he still loves me when I raise the subject. That it's just that he feels unwell. I don't know to cope with it and not feel terrible. I feel like I don't turn him on anymore, that he doesn't love me the way he used to. I miss the way it was. It's knocked my self confidence - which isn't great at the best of times.
When we do have sex it isn't satisfying for me. He's quickly exhausted, even oral sex is too much for him, so I feel under pressure to climax quickly, which of course doesn't help.
I don't know how to behave. I don't want to put too much pressure on him, he has enough to deal with. But on the other hand I want to save our relationship ... If I can.
It probably sounds pathetic, please don't have a go. It's just, I thought I'd found the love of my life, he's gorgeous and smells lovely, he's a lovely kind, interesting person and I want to kiss him all the time!
Anyone been in a similar situation or have any thoughts? I can't let this die without a fight.